"Hypothetical" question involving girls

[Thetrufflehunter]

First of all, is she depressed. I had a girlfriend once who was and she seemed to feel the same way your hypothetical one does. If this turns out to be the case, don't buy her flowers, she wants you to have fun with her. Do something she likes. Make her feel special and loved. Even if she doesn't have some mental illness do this anyway. Make your girl loved man.

I'm pretty sure she isn't depressed. Good idea with taking her "on a date" of sorts.

[cltrn81]

A lot of.women have bad self esteem atributted to bad  self image.  I was with a girl from high school into mid twenties before we split up.  She always thought less of herself and was very self conscience about her looks.  Let me just say she was very hot and was constantly hit on by other guys.......I could tell you a story where I beat the snot out of two guys at the same time over this chick because they were being rude asses.  The point I am trying to get at wad that nothing I ever did or said could change the way she felt about herself And anything I did wrong would could turned around and thrown in my face for making her feel so less of herself.  I am not saying to give up but do understand if it is a chemical in balance then medication may be the only answer. good luck with it and maybe you will fair better than I did

[particle]

Honestly man, she may just not be happy in the relationship. It happens, it's not your fault, not her fault, just simply the compatibility of two humans. There is nothing wrong with it, especially at a young age. This probably won't be the last time it happens to you. Just be glad it didn't take a marriage and a couple kids to figure it out (ask me how I know). A relationship is supposed to be easy, if you two are meant to be together, you'll find an easy way to make it happen. Do what you can do to help her feel comfortable in the relationship, but DO NOT force it, it will not help. Good luck man, and still build her that zombie deck, there is ZERO reason you cannot still be friends.

I agree with the above except the "relationships should be easy" part. Committed long term relationships take work from both sides.  There are no two humans who are 100% satisfied 100% of the time without putting effort in and facing challenges. Best o luck.

I agree with this, there is no perfect relationship, but it also shouldn't be hard. I used to think this same thing, that relationships require hard work. But let me tell you, me and my now fiancé, just click. It is frankly, easy. We have the same personality so we just mesh. There is such a thing as an easy relationship. The key is finding and recognizing it when you do.

Call me in ten years and we'll see if your relationship was easy. After kids, bills, house payments, something will stress you out I guarantee it. Sure you guys are happy now but you're only engaged. Not trying to be negative nancy, I'm all for love, just think it's silly to think "she's perfect for me, I'll never be unhappy a day in my life." Life is hard. Great people (friends, partners etc) can make it easier, but they cannot solve all problems.

[Wingnut]

Honestly man, she may just not be happy in the relationship. It happens, it's not your fault, not her fault, just simply the compatibility of two humans. There is nothing wrong with it, especially at a young age. This probably won't be the last time it happens to you. Just be glad it didn't take a marriage and a couple kids to figure it out (ask me how I know). A relationship is supposed to be easy, if you two are meant to be together, you'll find an easy way to make it happen. Do what you can do to help her feel comfortable in the relationship, but DO NOT force it, it will not help. Good luck man, and still build her that zombie deck, there is ZERO reason you cannot still be friends.

I agree with the above except the "relationships should be easy" part. Committed long term relationships take work from both sides.  There are no two humans who are 100% satisfied 100% of the time without putting effort in and facing challenges. Best o luck.

I agree with this, there is no perfect relationship, but it also shouldn't be hard. I used to think this same thing, that relationships require hard work. But let me tell you, me and my now fiancé, just click. It is frankly, easy. We have the same personality so we just mesh. There is such a thing as an easy relationship. The key is finding and recognizing it when you do.

Call me in ten years and we'll see if your relationship was easy. After kids, bills, house payments, something will stress you out I guarantee it. Sure you guys are happy now but you're only engaged. Not trying to be negative nancy, I'm all for love, just think it's silly to think "she's perfect for me, I'll never be unhappy a day in my life." Life is hard. Great people (friends, partners etc) can make it easier, but they cannot solve all problems.

I completely get what your saying (been there and have the child support as a souvenir). Me and my now fiancé have been together 8 years and have a child together. We've had money in the bank at times and we've robbed our piggy banks so we can buy toilet paper at others. We have have a "major" fight MAYBE twice. Now I admit that the spark fades, but I swear to cow it truly is easy. It's out there man, it's out there. BUT, I will admit that she is a rare bird, there aren't many like her. I will honestly say I have not once felt like her and I "have to work".

[Thetrufflehunter]

Today's news. A girl in my class told my gf I had a crush on her. Now she's upset with me and is on the verge of breaking up because of what this girl said.

[Popper23345]

Today's news. A girl in my class told my gf I had a crush on her. Now she's upset with me and is on the verge of breaking up because of what this girl said.

Does she have any evidence that you actually said that? If not, just tell your girlfriend that (insert girls name here) is just a thirsty @$$ gardening tool that wants to be as good as your gf

[Thetrufflehunter]

Today's news. A girl in my class told my gf I had a crush on her. Now she's upset with me and is on the verge of breaking up because of what this girl said.

Does she have any evidence that you actually said that? If not, just tell your girlfriend that (insert girls name here) is just a thirsty @$$ gardening tool that wants to be as good as your gf

I did. Took it a step further: swore on my life and on my heritage that I said nothing of the sort.

[Wingnut]

Today's news. A girl in my class told my gf I had a crush on her. Now she's upset with me and is on the verge of breaking up because of what this girl said.

Does she have any evidence that you actually said that? If not, just tell your girlfriend that (insert girls name here) is just a thirsty @$$ gardening tool that wants to be as good as your gf

I did. Took it a step further: swore on my life and on my heritage that I said nothing of the sort.

Well the first question is do you?

[Distriimuir]

Ah young problems lol, wish I still had those

[Thetrufflehunter]

Today's news. A girl in my class told my gf I had a crush on her. Now she's upset with me and is on the verge of breaking up because of what this girl said.

Does she have any evidence that you actually said that? If not, just tell your girlfriend that (insert girls name here) is just a thirsty @$$ gardening tool that wants to be as good as your gf

I did. Took it a step further: swore on my life and on my heritage that I said nothing of the sort.

Well the first question is do you?

Do I what? Yes, I didn't say that (or think it) and no, there is no proof. It was her, my friend, and I hanging out after my school play.

[particle]

So your girlfriend is mad at you because another girl likes you? Or because she thinks you initiated/caused the attraction? Or she thinks you actually cheated on her with said girl? If it's the first one, she has no merit. You cannot control other people's feelings and I don't think she'd expect you to dress like a hobo just so no female ever looks in your direction.

[Thetrufflehunter]

So your girlfriend is mad at you because another girl likes you? Or because she thinks you initiated/caused the attraction? Or she thinks you actually cheated on her with said girl? If it's the first one, she has no merit. You cannot control other people's feelings and I don't think she'd expect you to dress like a hobo just so no female ever looks in your direction.

More of "she likes you and now she says you like her, and I don't know who to believe".

[MarduArrow]

Take her out to dinner at her favorite restaurant and tell her you love her and how important she is to you, a heartfelt and meaningful gift may also help

[gtfotis]

Relationships come and go, focus on school work and wait until college, Mr. popular 😉

[the_intelligentleman]

Relationships come and go, focus on school work and wait until college, Mr. popular 😉

Otis, he's got the ladies all over him. He can't wait.