I Don't Know What To Do

[Mlerner12]

Also, now that you think about it my situation was the same as yours to the detail. 92+ on school or I was failing, my
arents screamed every ngiht, have a dog, they hate magic and electronics, I do band, and my sisters are never home because of college stuff and my school sounds just like yours. I've lost a few friends because of them I'm trying to get back... The only Thing I'm missing is religion, which I have to argue against (still) every day against some moron thy only argues that "God made this all, and the reason people die is because they don't believe in him", and almost got pushed a little too far... So yeah, I probably could give you some advice, if not everything's been said.

[#noided]

I know it's been said, so I'll just reiterate the point. You're young. None of this will matter in 3 1/2 years. Just hold out until then and you'll be 18 and be able to get out on your own. That's 3 1/2 years followed by tr rest of your life to make your own decisions and do as you please. I'm 25, soon to be 26. Literally nothing that happened to me 12 years ago matters now.

Just keep your head up, young brother. Things will get better.

I'm about to turn 19 and nothing I did 3 years ago matters now.

[Mikefrompluto]

I know it's been said, so I'll just reiterate the point. You're young. None of this will matter in 3 1/2 years. Just hold out until then and you'll be 18 and be able to get out on your own. That's 3 1/2 years followed by tr rest of your life to make your own decisions and do as you please. I'm 25, soon to be 26. Literally nothing that happened to me 12 years ago matters now.

Just keep your head up, young brother. Things will get better.

I'm about to turn 19 and nothing I did 3 years ago matters now.

Exactly.

[FlickerYourOwnIdentity]

Well I did follow al advice given (not medication however) and I'll give a run through.

Listening to rock music = good idea
Listening to classical music = great idea
Listening to songs in minor, or sad songs = horrible idea ( which sucks because I like songs in minor)
Listening to anything recent = makes me sad

Councilor meeting: Well... At least they cared.  They honestly didn't know what to do.  To give a run down of the meeting, I explained my situation.  Their first statement was don't do drugs.  Pretty generic, but ok.  They started babbling on about something to a co-worker because my councilor said he needed a seconmd opinion.  Great sign.  The next question to me was and I quote, "do you want us to call the police for child abuse."

They looked like they truly wanted to help, but the meeting declined from that point forward.  Ranging from, "It's ok to call the police in this situation" to, "have they been sexually abusing you..." Taysby, they sucked.  But at least they cared.

The doing more work idea was put to use, and that didn't really help.  As explained in one of my other posts, there is a loop.

[Apathy Reactor]

Well I did follow al advice given (not medication however) and I'll give a run through.

Listening to rock music = good idea
Listening to classical music = great idea
Listening to songs in minor, or sad songs = horrible idea ( which sucks because I like songs in minor)
Listening to anything recent = makes me sad

Councilor meeting: Well... At least they cared.  They honestly didn't know what to do.  To give a run down of the meeting, I explained my situation.  Their first statement was don't do drugs.  Pretty generic, but ok.  They started babbling on about something to a co-worker because my councilor said he needed a seconmd opinion.  Great sign.  The next question to me was and I quote, "do you want us to call the police for child abuse."

They looked like they truly wanted to help, but the meeting declined from that point forward.  Ranging from, "It's ok to call the police in this situation" to, "have they been sexually abusing you..." Taysby, they sucked.  But at least they cared.

The doing more work idea was put to use, and that didn't really help.  As explained in one of my other posts, there is a loop.

good to know that some things have helped. hope you can find a solution to your remaining predicament.

[FlickerYourOwnIdentity]

I'll look into other options for you.  Your parents are abusing you, but I think reporting them for child abuse and getting put in foster care or something would make your life more miserable.  Do you have relatives or a friend you could move in with for a while?

No need to look for me, I can somewhat handle myself.

Besides, I have friends who are willing to let me move in with them.  However their parents are more then likely going to try to get rid of me by calling my parents.

[Steerpike]

Are you acquainted with any if their parents personally? On top of potentially housing you maybe the ones you're closest with could give advice the councilors couldn't.

[imthelolrus]

I'm sorry to hear you're facing these challenges, just know you will be an even stronger and more resilient person after this passes. I'm glad you felt your school counselors cared, I urge you to seek out caring adults and friends. Any support system really.

(This includes our community here on iMTG.) I am one year away from obtaining my MS is Marriage Family Therapy (I promise we aren't all terrible!) Please feel free to PM me any time, if you think it would help. Focus on the positives. I don't know you incredibly well but you strike me as an intelligent and caring person, and I wish you the best

[Langku]

I'm glad you had the guts to share Flicker. I agree with Icesythe, Silent, Gorzo, Mike n' Spike et all: the passage of time is your best friend. Remember too that your parents are kind of like you right now, broken and confused and trying to deal. Granted, they're not dealing well but understanding the problems they have can help you distinguish between your issues and theirs. Allow yourself the benefit of not owning most of this stuff since it is their confusion and hurt, not yours.

Speaking of hurt, you hurt a lot now, I know. Teenage years are rough enough without the threat of divorce. But it's like losing mtg matches over and over when you started playing : you can let the hurt break you and   give up or you can use it to learn and become better.

And sleep. Seriously. A lot. At your age you need around 9 hours.

Know that you've got a support network here my friend. Ask whenever you need. Feel free to PM me anytime.