Whoever gets the last post wins!

[MarduArrow]

On another note: mods, why isn't the biggest thread in the forum stickied?

Because then no one would be able to win

More like I'm going to die by a heart attack if it starts to beat any harder, I'm sweating and it's hard to breath, that's how it is

That's called nerves. It happens. No big deal. But it does put up red flags about your readiness for a serious relationship.

Well I can guarantee it won't be serious she lives over a thousand miles away

That doesn't mean it can't be serious

[Dusktreader749]

More like I'm going to die by a heart attack if it starts to beat any harder, I'm sweating and it's hard to breath, that's how it is

That's called nerves. It happens. No big deal. But it does put up red flags about your readiness for a serious relationship.

Well I can guarantee it won't be serious she lives over a thousand miles away

That doesn't mean it can't be serious
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Well when someone is on your mind every waking moment and even some of when you are asleep, I think they deserve to know

[LinkCelestrial]

More like I'm going to die by a heart attack if it starts to beat any harder, I'm sweating and it's hard to breath, that's how it is

That's called nerves. It happens. No big deal. But it does put up red flags about your readiness for a serious relationship.

Well I can guarantee it won't be serious she lives over a thousand miles away

That doesn't mean it can't be serious

Well when someone is on your mind every waking moment and even some of when you are asleep, I think they deserve to know
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Long distance relationships don't work. Don't do it to yourself. Don't. Do. It.

Besides that is not love. That is lust. It will fade. And if that happens while you're in a /long distance relationship?/

Yes I'm being the neighsay and I'm being blunt. But I need to be. Seriously. Trust me.

[Dusktreader749]

More like I'm going to die by a heart attack if it starts to beat any harder, I'm sweating and it's hard to breath, that's how it is

I understand long distance relationships don't work but I know for a fact it is not lust. Lust by its definition is a strong SEXUAL desire. I can honestly say I have never had sexual desires for her.

That's called nerves. It happens. No big deal. But it does put up red flags about your readiness for a serious relationship.

Well I can guarantee it won't be serious she lives over a thousand miles away

That doesn't mean it can't be serious

Well when someone is on your mind every waking moment and even some of when you are asleep, I think they deserve to know

Long distance relationships don't work. Don't do it to yourself. Don't. Do. It.

Besides that is not love. That is lust. It will fade. And if that happens while you're in a /long distance relationship?/

Yes I'm being the neighsay and I'm being blunt. But I need to be. Seriously. Trust me.
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[Dusktreader749]

That ended up coming out wrong in the formatting but what I stayed was "I understand long distance relationships don't work but I know for a fact it is not lust. Lust by its definition is a strong SEXUAL desire. I can honestly say I have never had sexual desires for her." And the long distance relationship thing can be fixed I have a full ride scholarship to pretty much any college I want as long as I go into the military once I get out. But I still feel I should tell her.

[Dusktreader749]

I understand that, and her name is Emmy you have never met her.

[Dusktreader749]

Most likely not I met her after you graduated

[LinkCelestrial]

That ended up coming out wrong in the formatting but what I stayed was "I understand long distance relationships don't work but I know for a fact it is not lust. Lust by its definition is a strong SEXUAL desire. I can honestly say I have never had sexual desires for her." And the long distance relationship thing can be fixed I have a full ride scholarship to pretty much any college I want as long as I go into the military once I get out. But I still feel I should tell her.

That is one of its definitions. Lust is also a powerful longing for someone. Ask yourself why you like this person so much and why they're always in your thoughts.

Do not plan your future around her. Especially if you have to get into the military after college! That's begging disaster.

How well do you even know this girl? Why do you think she should know? How does that benefit you? And even more importantly, if you really care about her so much, how does it benefit her? Would it kill you to wait a few months? A year? See if your feelings are still there.

I'm trying to keep everyone's best interests in mind. People make rash decisions based on fragile emotions.

[LinkCelestrial]

Well said.

Thank you.

[Dusktreader749]

Well first off, I will have to go into the military anyways. Secondly I know her really well, third I just have a feeling I need to tell her before something happens, forth it removes a lot of stress caused by hiding the feelings, fifth is the fact I don't know how it would help her. All I have to say is last time I waited to tell a girl I got rejected, she started dating my best friend that night, cheated on him 14 times with her abusive ex, and when they broke up she became a flat out .bore.. I understand this may not be because I waited but considering when I told others of my feelings sooner it ended a lot nicer.

I understand you are trying to help by being the voice of reason, but not all the time are emotions fragile, I do thank you for it. But this just helped me figure it out more and made me more confident in my decision.

[LinkCelestrial]

Well first off, I will have to go into the military anyways. Secondly I know her really well, third I just have a feeling I need to tell her before something happens, forth it removes a lot of stress caused by hiding the feelings, fifth is the fact I don't know how it would help her. All I have to say is last time I waited to tell a girl I got rejected, she started dating my best friend that night, cheated on him 14 times with her abusive ex, and when they broke up she became a flat out .bore.. I understand this may not be because I waited but considering when I told others of my feelings sooner it ended a lot nicer.

I understand you are trying to help by being the voice of reason, but not all the time are emotions fragile, I do thank you for it. But this just helped me figure it out more and made me more confident in my decision.

Your past experience shouldn't affect this decision. If she would have accepted you do you think she wouldn't have cheated?

Otherwise I'm glad I strengthened your resolve. I still urge caution. Good luck.

[MarduArrow]

More like I'm going to die by a heart attack if it starts to beat any harder, I'm sweating and it's hard to breath, that's how it is

That's called nerves. It happens. No big deal. But it does put up red flags about your readiness for a serious relationship.

Well I can guarantee it won't be serious she lives over a thousand miles away

That doesn't mean it can't be serious

Well when someone is on your mind every waking moment and even some of when you are asleep, I think they deserve to know

Long distance relationships don't work. Don't do it to yourself. Don't. Do. It.

Besides that is not love. That is lust. It will fade. And if that happens while you're in a /long distance relationship?/

Yes I'm being the neighsay and I'm being blunt. But I need to be. Seriously. Trust me.
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You sir, are wrong, long distance relationships are difficult, not impossible

[Rass]

Guys, guys, stop beating on the new guy...
Let him tell...

On another note: mods, why isn't the biggest thread in the forum stickied?

Because it gets bumped so often so no need to pin it.

[Dusktreader749]

Shut up taysby stop with all the innuendos, and I told her, I got just what I wanted out of the talk, me telling her, her saying she liked me too, not getting into a full blown relationship and still being on good terms.

[LinkCelestrial]

You sir, are wrong, long distance relationships are difficult, not impossible

You cannot maintain a romantic relationship over distance for an extended period of time without either having known the person for a long time and having had a relationship beforehand or actually seeing each other a fair amount.

I used to believe they could work. I now speak from experience.