I lost my girlfriend. NSFW

[Spencer Addington]

You should listen to the song "Forgiveness" by Tobymac.

He should listen to "back in black" by AC/DC

[FustyDavorite]

Slenderbro, I agree with you

She shouldn't even talk to me. But she does, and she says that as long as I go back into therapy and I got to SAA meetings (sex addicts group), that she will support and love me through my afflictions and we will get back together over time if I prove myself changed

I certainly don't deserve her. And every day suicide is in my mind, but I'm one of the luckiest people alive to have someone so understanding, and that makes me want to stay

Well good for you my friend. I applaud your ambition.

while I completely agree with Slender, and the severity of your situation matches he's said, I think you should note that isn't any reason to live in regret. You've begun to handle it all, and that's easily the best thing you could do. You've been forgiven, and despite the repurcussions it's still the greatest feeling in the world. So flourish off that and have hope for the future. Don't dwell on the past.

[Stromack]

Things have been odd.

She and I want to be friends, but not like when people say "let's be friends". Basically, our relationship without sex


Everything is hard to explain. Even more over a forum

I'll probably get negged for this, but I think she should leave your cheating ass for good. I don't care what the situation is, cheating never has an excuse.

You get a +1 from me, buddy.

[MisterJH]

So this post is kinda weird. I guess I need to vent my thoughts and feelings


Me and Savannah dated for a year and a half. Things were hard, as both of us suffered from deep depression. Hers came out in self harm. Mine came out in purposefully doing things I shouldn't in order to have reasons I hate myself. Mainly cheating, a lot

She found out tonight, and promptly left. At first I was in shock and hurt because I was scared of losing her, but now, I'm not sure how I feel. I can't tell if I legitimately feel bad, or just because I got caught. I've had that issue all my life

I'd like to think I truly loved her... But now I'm questioning what love even feels like, or what I truly want in life. I do know that I want her to find someone who doesn't hurt her though. But that feeling could be from a platonic place, and not of love.


I guess I just don't feel anything. I never really have, and I'm not sure if that bothers me

I just put on masks everywhere, all the time.

Who am I?

Dude i feel you, i have periods of my life where i feel the same way like everythig around me is a lie.. But ive come to realize it always passes and the people i still know on the other side are the 'real' people in my life..

Also, on the bright side at least you can get laid, apparently frequently. And yes thats a serious brightside im not being an arse.

[Apathy Reactor]

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Also, on the bright side at least you can get laid, apparently frequently. And yes thats a serious brightside im not being an arse.

The thing is... that is not helping, it actually contributes to why this became a problem. trying to solve the problem of cheating and having your girlfriend leave by then having sex is in no way a good solution, I don't see why you would even bring this up, because his ability to get laid is not so much a brightside as it is the problem here.

[MisterJH]

Well i guess perspective is key here. Sorry, i 1) only read the original post and 2) have a different view on it and it is a 'positive' in my eyes as well as to many others, however the OP is neither me nor anyone else, and his situation is unique. so once again my apologies if it were distasteful

[Apathy Reactor]

Well i guess perspective is key here. Sorry, i 1) only read the original post and 2) have a different view on it and it is a 'positive' in my eyes as well as to many others, however the OP is neither me nor anyone else, and his situation is unique. so once again my apologies if it were distasteful

Good show. I also apologize for being so blunt, but the problem requires a solution that would preferably involve his girlfriend and he patching up their relationship, rather than tearing more holes into it. you may have your karma back now.

[MisterJH]

Is the goal to get his girlfriend back or to try and make future relationships more successful? In my (albeit limited) experience lies and cheating are irreversible damages(sorry if thats not what youd like to hear) and a relationship will NEVER be the same after. Of course, there are exceptions to every rule but they are fewer and further between in dealing with this than most situations. Also, no need for you to apologize i have a tendency to forget what other people just may think(slim shady!)

[Apathy Reactor]

Is the goal to get his girlfriend back or to try and make future relationships more successful? In my (albeit limited) experience lies and cheating are irreversible damages(sorry if thats not what youd like to hear) and a relationship will NEVER be the same after. Of course, there are exceptions to every rule but they are fewer and further between in dealing with this than most situations. Also, no need for you to apologize i have a tendency to forget what other people just may think(slim shady!)

He has stated in later posts that he and his girlfriend are still friends and if he goes through all of his sex addict rehabilitation and whatnot, they plan to get back together. I think that that is great, I just hope He realizes what a great girl he has, and  i hope their relationship can blossom in the future. (without the cheating)

[MisterJH]

Well then it seems you have a strong woman at your back, and if things go well then i hope everything is at your back helping you onward. Its a tough road but if you seek help and are open to it, well only good things can come of it. If you have another chance then the best thing you can do is try your hardest to make the best of it. I have faith!