Girl friend

ducttapetitan · January 24, 2013, 01:32:56 AM

Quote from: Potticus on January 24, 2013, 01:13:35 AM
Uhm tl;dr version.

Be yourself, don't try to fit what you think she likes.

If you just ask her to a movie and she says yes. You're half way there. She said yes to go on a date with you, remember that. She said yes when she could have said no.

Just take her to a movie and ice cream after. Don't ask her out or try to make any moves, it's just the first date. If you want to try to hold hands that's ok or put your arm around her.

Get a second date, something a little more fun like laser tag or a dinner date. Same rules apply.

Try to get her to hang out at your house eventually, I asked my gf out while watching a movie and just laying together. That was also my first kiss with her. We didn't have a crazy makeout session or anything just some kissing. Don't expect anything over the top.

Few tips.
ALWAYS open the damn door for her.
Tell her she looks good in a positive way. "Wow, you look great tonight" something like that.
Always look at her when possible when talking. She wants to talk with you not just talk In general.

And ofcourse, try to relax. Hell ya you'll be nervous but we all are.

These deffinately are good rules to follow at least in my mind. I personally don't plan on making a "move" any time soon. I personally kick but at lazer tag so I don't know if that is such a good idea or not:). I really appreciate your comments as this is a tricky subject
for me.

Birdbrain · January 24, 2013, 08:12:51 AM

Don't try to hard. Sometimes being a little aloof can be a good thing. If you think you see a sign that she likes you, don't jump then (figuratively) and ask her about it. Treat her kindly, but don't shower her with affection. Because she may come to expect this and expect this all the time. Don't let your emotinal baggage get in the way. And You have nothing to worry about. If she says no, at least you tried. It's not like you'll die if she says no

Birdbrain · January 24, 2013, 08:16:55 AM

Oh. And openness and honesty are an absolute must

Xaol · January 24, 2013, 03:48:55 PM

Quote from: Keira122 on January 24, 2013, 01:17:43 AM
As a girl I must say, shy guys are cute! ^_^ show off your brains, if you play magic I assume you have one. Talk about things you both like and if she seems into it, introduce her to MtG ^_^ it's a fun hobby that my bf got me into and now it's something we enjoy together. (tho he still beats me almost every time lol) also, be mature, stay calm and don't be to pushy in the begining ok? Take it slow and if your really shy start with getting her number and maybe even consider asking her out over txt. It's not conventional but if she likes you it'll be ok

Is it actually ok to ask a girl out over text? There is a girl I like- she's very shy, but I think she likes me back. We talk over Facebook, but not really in school.
I only have her number because a friend gave it to me, I feel like it would be weird to text her out of the blue. I would try to talk to her more in person, but my school is large and we have no classes together this new semester.
Thanks!

Kaleo42 · January 24, 2013, 04:19:16 PM

Do NOT ask electronically. If you want to be different than the other guys and make her actually give a .poo. (haha nice auto correct) about you then talk to her like she is a person not a chat line.

Keira122 · January 24, 2013, 04:53:33 PM

Quote from: Xaol on January 24, 2013, 03:48:55 PM
Quote from: Keira122 on January 24, 2013, 01:17:43 AM
As a girl I must say, shy guys are cute! ^_^ show off your brains, if you play magic I assume you have one. Talk about things you both like and if she seems into it, introduce her to MtG ^_^ it's a fun hobby that my bf got me into and now it's something we enjoy together. (tho he still beats me almost every time lol) also, be mature, stay calm and don't be to pushy in the begining ok? Take it slow and if your really shy start with getting her number and maybe even consider asking her out over txt. It's not conventional but if she likes you it'll be ok
Is it actually ok to ask a girl out over text? There is a girl I like- she's very shy, but I think she likes me back. We talk over Facebook, but not really in school.
I only have her number because a friend gave it to me, I feel like it would be weird to text her out of the blue. I would try to talk to her more in person, but my school is large and we have no classes together this new semester.
Thanks!

It can be ok, you don't have to just bring it up out of the blue, txt her more. Drop little hints. Compliment her. If your goin to ask a girl out over txt take your time, about a week of virtual flirting before you spring it on her. Also a good thing to do is just tell her you want to ask her something (after the week or so of hint dropping) then say nevermind. If she wants you to ask shell tell you to just ask if she's not interested she's likely to just say ok. ^_^ often times you boys arnt as subtle as you think, but that can be good.

Keira122 · January 24, 2013, 04:56:24 PM

Quote from: Kaleo42 on January 24, 2013, 04:19:16 PM
Do NOT ask electronically. If you want to be different than the other guys and make her actually give a .poo. (haha nice auto correct) about you then talk to her like she is a person not a chat line.

Asking out doesn't have to be in person, that's jus kinda the age we live in I think. And like I said, if she likes you it won't matter how you ask her out as Long as your sweet about it. Also I agree with the earlyer post, delete her number, then get it from her. I hate when people give my number out randomly and I get people texting me that I don't even really know. If I want you to have my number I'll give it to you when you ask. ^_^

Keira122 · January 24, 2013, 05:01:57 PM

Quote from: Potticus on January 24, 2013, 04:32:58 PM
Quote from: Kaleo42 on January 24, 2013, 04:19:16 PM
Do NOT ask electronically. If you want to be different than the other guys and make her actually give a .poo. (haha nice auto correct) about you then talk to her like she is a person not a chat line.

In this day and age it's how it goes. Just asking her to a date via text is fine. Don't ever ask a woman to be your girlfriend via text. (That might be what you're going for) because then you deserve a no.

That's what I was getting at, and if the date goes well then ask her to be your girlfriend. (that must always be done in person.)

Sorry I'm posting so much! I just have a lot to say on this subject lol ^_^

All-Mana Mania · January 24, 2013, 05:17:21 PM

Quote from: Keira122 on January 24, 2013, 05:01:57 PM
Quote from: Potticus on January 24, 2013, 04:32:58 PM
Quote from: Kaleo42 on January 24, 2013, 04:19:16 PM
Do NOT ask electronically. If you want to be different than the other guys and make her actually give a .poo. (haha nice auto correct) about you then talk to her like she is a person not a chat line.

In this day and age it's how it goes. Just asking her to a date via text is fine. Don't ever ask a woman to be your girlfriend via text. (That might be what you're going for) because then you deserve a no.

That's what I was getting at, and if the date goes well then ask her to be your girlfriend. (that must always be done in person.)

Sorry I'm posting so much! I just have a lot to say on this subject lol ^_^

Your gonna help me with my girl problems. Well there is this girl both of us like basketball a lot and I go to all her games. I told her last Friday and then we texted til like Sunday. Since then she never texted back and I was gonna tell her tomorrow!! Help please 😄😄

Kaleo42 · January 24, 2013, 05:23:05 PM

Say what you want about the day and age, communication is still better in person. 85% of communication is lost in electronic communication. Yes it's "acceptable" to text important things, but I would hope you want to be a more than "acceptable" guy.

ducttapetitan · January 24, 2013, 10:48:49 PM

Thanks guys. I actually was able to say hi (after a day of almost throwing up). She actually responded to my text:) so we will see what happens.

All-Mana Mania · January 24, 2013, 11:22:38 PM

And then one more tip. If you are gonna text her to ask her out say" can I ask you a question??" Then when she says ok say nevermind. Then if she wants you to ask then she will say yes. If se just says "ok" then she doesn't care about you

that's the bad news

Kaleo42 · January 24, 2013, 11:30:28 PM

Quote from: All-Mana Mania on January 24, 2013, 11:22:38 PM
And then one more tip. If you are gonna text her to ask her out say" can I ask you a question??" Then when she says ok say nevermind. Then if she wants you to ask then she will say yes. If se just says "ok" then she doesn't care about you that's the bad news

Please dont do this

ducttapetitan · January 25, 2013, 12:23:40 AM

Even though I may be shy, once I get started I am really upfront about things. So I will not do that.

HipsterBundleOfSticks · January 25, 2013, 12:59:25 AM

So clearly being the proud owner of a uterus, I know all related to girls (Haha woah comical genius too).
But yeah most of the advice is legit. Generally I can tell a guy is into me if we talk a lot, makes an effort to text, etc. It's also what I do when I want the d. So def do that!! Just make an extra effort to be around her. If she likes your company keep up with it, but if she seems distant/uncomfortable back up a little.
Obviously be yourself. Like no brainer for that one.
Man it's pretty difficult to give advice not knowing her well since all gals like different things. For example the 'Did you fall from heaven because have sex with me' would have certainly swooned me. Really be yourself, talk with her a lot, and just get comfortable being around her. And when you get to the point where you feel like you've established a good connection and aren't swooning level nervous just go for it!! And good luck!