Girl friend

[ducttapetitan]

Dude(s) I need some help. I have never had a girlfriend before and there is this girl I really like.  I really don't know what to do or say. I am really nervous and need some encouragement.
Any advice would be awesome. Thanks peoples.

Ducttapetitan

[Kareason]

First off, how old are each of you?  Also what things do you have in common? 

[ducttapetitan]

I'm like 17 and she's 16.  We are both sports minded.  She is just really nice.

[Kaleo42]

Dont be nervous, it's a turn off for anyone who doesnt have mental or emotional issues. Now for the part people forget to tell you, how to not be nervous.

Nervousness stems from insecurity which usually takes form of questioning one's own worth. Thoughts like "do i look ok" "am i sweating, can she see that i am" "am i going to say something stupid" etc.

What you need to remember is that every one around you is thinking the same things (otherwise you wouldve learned think differently). The first person in a group to truly learn and apply this knowledge will rule the group and achieve great (though sometimes terrible) things. 20 seconds of aboslute courage is all it takes. If you can set aside the insecurities for 20 seconds and say what you want to say, youll be amazed at the results.

[All-Mana Mania]

Dont be nervous, it's a turn off for anyone who doesnt have mental or emotional issues. Now for the part people forget to tell you, how to not be nervous.

Nervousness stems from insecurity which usually takes form of questioning one's own worth. Thoughts like "do i look ok" "am i sweating, can she see that i am" "am i going to say something stupid" etc.

What you need to remember is that every one around you is thinking the same things (otherwise you wouldve learned think differently). The first person in a group to truly learn and apply this knowledge will rule the group and achieve great (though sometimes terrible) things. 20 seconds of aboslute courage is all it takes. If you can set aside the insecurities for 20 seconds and say what you want to say, youll be amazed at the results.

Ummm kaleo your definetly helping me with this girl I really like ahahaha :O

[MarduArrow]

It's also not a good idea to wait for "the perfect moment" because that never comes

[All-Mana Mania]

Oh and get to know her more, hang out, talk more and all that and then before you ask her out tell her you like her then a week after ask her out

[ducttapetitan]

I have like never talked to any girls ever.  But we will see.

[All-Mana Mania]

I have like never talked to any girls ever.  But we will see.

Start with something funny or stupid then she will text back!! Cause I like this girl and I go to everyone of her basketball games!! Do that and your set 👍

[ducttapetitan]

I don't have a phone.

[All-Mana Mania]

I don't have a phone.

Well, that's gonna be kinda hard then but here is what you do. Take her to a place just you and here look at her straight in the eyes, then reach and hold both of her hands, then stare at her and start saying like" I liked you for a while, I can't get you out of my mind, etc." then ask this exact question" will you be my girlfriend??" And she will most likely say yes

[Gorzo]

Just be yourself, as corny as that may sound. Be confident as Kaleo suggested, and just be you. If she's not cool with that, she's not worth hanging out with

[Teysa karlov]

Be yourself, take interest in what she says, be nice, make sure you smell nice, and are dressed in clean clothes, invite her to either to cinema then food somewhere, or out for coffee,

[Missingkirby34]

Be yourself, if she can't respect that she isn't for you. Don't try to impress her (i mean yes try to but don't be super obvious about it). If you have known her for awhile it makes it a lot easier, trust me on this one. My best friend of 10 years is now my girlfriend of almost 2yrs. Oh and don't over think it, or stress over it, you will know exactly when the time has come to ask her, when that time comes don't hesitate at all. Don't try and prepare a "speech" things never go the way you expect them to, just go into a conversation being confident. COMPLIMENTS are the key to a girls heart, no not those cheesy @$$ pick up lines like "hey girl are you a smoke detector because you're loud and annoying" or "did you fall from heaven because have sex with me (however I will come back to this)", avoid words like hot and sexy, use words like gorgeous and beautiful. If you can make her laugh it makes things a hella lot easier, try some cheesy pick-up line (if you know her well enough so she knows you are kidding), don't over due this though, if it seems like you are trying to hard to be funny it makes you seem desperate/needy. Don't try to hard to get her attention or be mean to her, this is not funny, do not treat her any less than you would yourself times 10, in elementary school we were told "you bug em you love em" well that couldn't be further from the truth, sure there are some girls (personally I call them crazy or Rhianna) that are attracted to the @$$holes that treat them terribly. On and last point, be compassionate, listen to what she has to say and show her you care about her, girls love a guy who is sensitive on the inside. So lets review,
Lots of compliments (but not too many it's up to you to find that line)
Be yourself
Be funny
Don't be too over prepared
Don't over think this process
Don't be an @$$
Timing is key
And
compassion

Of you follow those simple steps you should find yourself with a girl very soon! Good luck! Any other questions feel free to PM me!

[Keira122]

As a girl I must say, shy guys are cute! ^_^ show off your brains, if you play magic I assume you have one. Talk about things you both like and if she seems into it, introduce her to MtG ^_^ it's a fun hobby that my bf got me into and now it's something we enjoy together. (tho he still beats me almost every time lol) also, be mature, stay calm and don't be to pushy in the begining ok? Take it slow and if your really shy start with getting her number and maybe even consider asking her out over txt. It's not conventional but if she likes you it'll be ok