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[Greg54js]

Okay so I have a dilemma. There's this person I like and we had 2 previous relationships that both ended badly. Today I drove that person home and for the first time had an actual conversation. I texted them when I got home and we talked for almost another 2 hours. During that time I asked to be let back into that person's life as a friend. They told me no just like before but this time I pressed the issue and they said yes. My concern and reason for posting is, this person has a tendency to use the people they get close to for personal pleasure and I want to know what I should do when they try to do that to me again.

[Birdbrain]

Be firm, but polite. Anyone that really cares about anyone would respect the others wishes. And be sure to stand your ground on the issue. Or else subconsciously they will see you as a pushover, an not take what you say seriously. Be sure to respect any respect they ask for as well, though that doesn't mean you should do everything they say either. Be mindfull of the situation, and act accordingly...don't know what else to say

[Greg54js]

Thanks for the thoughts

[Wally]

It's always a tough call. I'd say if they were worth the effort then by all means go there. You already know this person, you have a history. Don't forget this, and always keep things in check. Of course people can change, and if they have then that's great.

Identify the boundaries of your friendship (weather to yourself or together)

Also it's good to talk about it with a close friend of yours that can be objective and view the situation from the outside. And they will be a good person to keep you in check on the situation. For this person you will need to already respect what they say because they may not tell you things you want to hear.

On the other hand if they aren't worth it, just walk away. Their loss.

[Greg54js]

Thanks Wally

[Thorn]

Listen to what they want and if you can not work out a relationship in which you are both happy then it is not worth your time. However if you do not have problems then that's great!
Good luck!

[Langku]

You are suffering {corrupted conscience}. You already have several poison counters. You need to break free and get your life back - it's time for {cursebreak}.

[tsul25]

There's probably a reason why it ended badly two times. It's hard to give advice without knowing that reason. If both times it has been due to this person's tendency to use people then it is not worth giving it another try. If both times it has honestly been due to a reason that is inconsequential now, then perhaps you give it another shot knowing full well that it could end badly once again. I prefer to take a realistic view on life, and in reality people don't change as much or as quickly as you would hope. So before you do anything, ask yourself why it ended before and why you need them now. And answer honestly, because that's the only way to find the answer you're looking for.

[Karrthus]

There's probably a reason why it ended badly two times. It's hard to give advice without knowing that reason. If both times it has been due to this person's tendency to use people then it is not worth giving it another try. If both times it has honestly been due to a reason that is inconsequential now, then perhaps you give it another shot knowing full well that it could end badly once again. I prefer to take a realistic view on life, and in reality people don't change as much or as quickly as you would hope. So before you do anything, ask yourself why it ended before and why you need them now. And answer honestly, because that's the only way to find the answer you're looking for.

that was probably the best advice you'll get from anywhere. Only one small detail I view differently. People don't change at all. We just suppress who we really are to fool others. You could give it another shot, but chances are that persons true colors will show in time and things will turn out how they did before. At the same time there is a small percentage of people that actually do change. Either way you probably already had your mind made up. You were probably just looking for clarification, so my best advice would be and old saying "follow your heart". It's corny but its true.

[Poof]

You say that they're manipulative why would u want them as a part of your life?  You gave them a ride home and then you have to beg to be friends?  So you gave her a ride home and she doesn't consider you a friend?  Really kid move on.

[Silent1236]

You say that they're manipulative why would u want them as a part of your life?  You gave them a ride home and then you have to beg to be friends?  So you gave her a ride home and she doesn't consider you a friend?  Really kid move on.

Worded a tad harsh, but this was kinda my thought as well. 

[Greg54js]

You say that they're manipulative why would u want them as a part of your life?  You gave them a ride home and then you have to beg to be friends?  So you gave her a ride home and she doesn't consider you a friend?  Really kid move on.

Not beg just so you know. We just had an in depth discussion on it

[Mikefrompluto]

If you have to have a discussion with someone on whether or not you can be friends with them, then they arent worth it, and chances are theyre playing games with you anyways. You seem like a nice guy. Your time and efforts might be better placed in making a new friendship with someone else. Just my opinion.

[Moneekahh]

This just sounds like a bad situation  all around. Why would you want to be a part f this persons life at all? If you have to ask to be their friend then there's a serious issue already. And why were you driving them home if they arent even a friend? Sorry, doesn't seem worth the effort to me. Move on.

[jfrazz21]

Dont deal with {sluts}