so I am a 13 year old, and I am thinking about the future and I am getting seriously freaked out. I am imagining living with out my parents and that scares me, my parents dying that seriously freaks me out, and me dying I just can not imagine this. All this has gotten me thinking what is the point of life, people will always be sacred, afraid, and the biggest thing is that people die. I just relized why life is so pressios because it happens in a blink of an eye, and now I can't comfort myself with these thoughts in my brain. I just needed to say this to get it out of my head. But question have any of you experienced anything like this? Sorry for the grim and pessimistic post.
I have, i think everyone does at some point. I think It is a part of growing up.
Don't worry. As you said life is in the blink of an eye so use your time wisely. Have fun be a good kid and most importantly kick ass at magic lol :D
Depends on your circumstances. Death is not an ending, but a continuation of life. Plus it doesn't bother me as much as other people, as my entire life has been surrounded by Death, and that I've had two near-Death experiences, one involving a pretty bad car accident when I was 19 and another with I was 24 when a mortar landed 20 feet from me and didn't explode. However, there is too much to write on the subject here.
I'd like to point out- you're 13. None of these things will likely happen anytime soon. Your parents may die when you're in your 50s, you may die in your 70s, you probably won't live in their basement. Statistically, that's about what'll happen.
Quote from: Rothsteine on October 14, 2014, 12:12:52 AM
so I am a 13 year old, and I am thinking about the future and I am getting seriously freaked out. I am imagining living with out my parents and that scares me, my parents dying that seriously freaks me out, and me dying I just can not imagine this. All this has gotten me thinking what is the point of life, people will always be sacred, afraid, and the biggest thing is that people die. I just relized why life is so pressios because it happens in a blink of an eye, and now I can't comfort myself with these thoughts in my brain. I just needed to say this to get it out of my head. But question have any of you experienced anything like this? Sorry for the grim and pessimistic post.
Like it has been said before everybody experiences this. I'm a senior in high school, I'm freaking out about where ill be in a year, I've also thought about myself dying too, it was pretty tough to get through, but I had a trusted friend I could talk too and I got through. Here's a quote from bilbo Baggins about the future
"It's a dangerous business, going out your door. You step onto the road, and if you don't keep your feet, there's no telling where you might be swept off to."
-Bilbo Baggins
Just keep your head up and make sure you don't get entangled with the little things.
You know what I love about life? In the time it took me to type this my fingers have moved in many ways I may never see them move again. I have also used a minute of my own time of which we have precious little of to write a message for a forum whose only confirmation of existence is that I am currently posting a note on it.
Quote from: Munchlax on October 14, 2014, 07:31:59 AM
You know what I love about life? In the time it took me to type this my fingers have moved in many ways I may never see them move again. I have also used a minute of my own time of which we have precious little of to write a message for a forum whose only confirmation of existence is that I am currently posting a note on it.
This. So much, this.
Fun fact: a reporter interviewed everyone that survived jumping off the Golden Gage Bridge for suicidal reasons (a surprisingly large amount). Every one said that halfway to two thirds of the way down, they realized every problem that made them jump could be easily fixed. Every single one.
Quote from: Mishra, Artificer Extraordinaire on October 14, 2014, 10:26:19 AM
Fun fact: a reporter interviewed everyone that survived jumping off the Golden Gage Bridge for suicidal reasons (a surprisingly large amount). Every one said that halfway to two thirds of the way down, they realized every problem that made them jump could be easily fixed. Every single one.
That's actually incredible!! Do you have a link I'd love to re as that :D
If nothing really bad happens, the progress of technology will make you live forever if you are only 13 now.
Quote from: Piotr on October 14, 2014, 03:28:39 PM
If nothing really bad happens, the progress of technology will make you live forever if you are only 13 now.
I bet you believe Obama created Ebola, dontcha ;)
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Quote from: Mishra, Artificer Extraordinaire on October 14, 2014, 10:26:19 AM
Fun fact: a reporter interviewed everyone that survived jumping off the Golden Gage Bridge for suicidal reasons (a surprisingly large amount). Every one said that halfway to two thirds of the way down, they realized every problem that made them jump could be easily fixed. Every single one.
That's actually incredible!! Do you have a link I'd love to re as that :D
He only interviewed 7/10, but my point stands- every one realized that their problems could be fixed and they shouldn't die.
http://m.psychologytoday.com/blog/out-the-darkness/201109/the-jumpers
Wow thanks Mishra!! That was a cool article!!
Quote from: Mishra, Artificer Extraordinaire on October 14, 2014, 04:34:50 PM
Quote from: Mattao19 on October 14, 2014, 10:44:18 AM
Quote from: Mishra, Artificer Extraordinaire on October 14, 2014, 10:26:19 AM
Fun fact: a reporter interviewed everyone that survived jumping off the Golden Gage Bridge for suicidal reasons (a surprisingly large amount). Every one said that halfway to two thirds of the way down, they realized every problem that made them jump could be easily fixed. Every single one.
That's actually incredible!! Do you have a link I'd love to re as that :D
He only interviewed 7/10, but my point stands- every one realized that their problems could be fixed and they shouldn't die.
http://m.psychologytoday.com/blog/out-the-darkness/201109/the-jumpers
They do say that jumping is the worst as you regret your decision halfway down and you can't stop yourself
I depress myself quite often with similar thoughts.. Like what if something happens to my mom while she's out or if my sister gets into a horrible car accident while she's out and about..... Aaaand I'm sad.
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It's natural, everyone will die eventually, the thoughts about myself dying don't upset me actually.
Quote from: Mishra, Artificer Extraordinaire on October 14, 2014, 04:31:03 PM
Quote from: Piotr on October 14, 2014, 03:28:39 PM
If nothing really bad happens, the progress of technology will make you live forever if you are only 13 now.
I bet you believe Obama created Ebola, dontcha ;)
What made you say that?
Quote from: Piotr on October 15, 2014, 06:30:01 AM
Quote from: Mishra, Artificer Extraordinaire on October 14, 2014, 04:31:03 PM
Quote from: Piotr on October 14, 2014, 03:28:39 PM
If nothing really bad happens, the progress of technology will make you live forever if you are only 13 now.
I bet you believe Obama created Ebola, dontcha ;)
What made you say that?
Both that and the whole "science will make you live forever within a few decades" are conspiracy theories.
Quote from: Mattao19 on October 14, 2014, 11:26:17 PM
Wow thanks Mishra!! That was a cool article!!
Yeah, it intrigued me too.
Quote from: 5/9 Turtle on October 14, 2014, 11:37:39 PM
Quote from: Mishra, Artificer Extraordinaire on October 14, 2014, 04:34:50 PM
Quote from: Mattao19 on October 14, 2014, 10:44:18 AM
Quote from: Mishra, Artificer Extraordinaire on October 14, 2014, 10:26:19 AM
Fun fact: a reporter interviewed everyone that survived jumping off the Golden Gage Bridge for suicidal reasons (a surprisingly large amount). Every one said that halfway to two thirds of the way down, they realized every problem that made them jump could be easily fixed. Every single one.
That's actually incredible!! Do you have a link I'd love to re as that :D
He only interviewed 7/10, but my point stands- every one realized that their problems could be fixed and they shouldn't die.
http://m.psychologytoday.com/blog/out-the-darkness/201109/the-jumpers
They do say that jumping is the worst as you regret your decision halfway down and you can't stop yourself
Unless you don't regret it. I'm betting a lot don't.
I have a different experience than most, it seems.
When I was very young (about 6) I attended my first funeral. It was for my grandfather. Since then I've witnessed the aftermath of a great grandmother, grandmother, two aunts, a cousin (he was very young), and two uncles (one great uncle) passing away. (Every time I try to remember all of them I forget one or two.)
Needless to say I've thought about death, a lot. Every time somebody passes away it brings back all the memories.
So what does that mean for me? I'm not sure. I've never cried at a funeral. I'm often lacking an emotional response at all, it's like I'm in shock or it hasn't settled in yet, but it never changes past that. Or there's jealousy and/or anger. (depression does that to you.) I've come to the conclusion that I'm an emotionless prick and though I say this I'm truly not okay with it.
But what about my death? Well, I'm pretty content with it. I even look forward to it. As a Christian I can't wait to go to Heaven, as that's what I believe will happen when I die.
I have morbid daydreams where my family and friends die in all sorts of ways. I don't know why, but I do. They don't really freak me out.
Quote from: LinkCelestrial on October 15, 2014, 04:44:41 PM
I have a different experience than most, it seems.
When I was very young (about 6) I attended my first funeral. It was for my grandfather. Since then I've witnessed the aftermath of a great grandmother, grandmother, two aunts, a cousin (he was very young), and two uncles (one great uncle) passing away. (Every time I try to remember all of them I forget one or two.)
Needless to say I've thought about death, a lot. Every time somebody passes away it brings back all the memories.
So what does that mean for me? I'm not sure. I've never cried at a funeral. I'm often lacking an emotional response at all, it's like I'm in shock or it hasn't settled in yet, but it never changes past that. Or there's jealousy and/or anger. (depression does that to you.) I've come to the conclusion that I'm an emotionless prick and though I say this I'm truly not okay with it.
But what about my death? Well, I'm pretty content with it. I even look forward to it. As a Christian I can't wait to go to Heaven, as that's what I believe will happen when I die.
I have morbid daydreams where my family and friends die in all sorts of ways. I don't know why, but I do. They don't really freak me out.
I have to say that you react similarly to tragedy to me. My dad was arrested recently for breaking his parole, and I still have no idea what to think about how I reacted. Quite honestly I had no time to react as he left way too much stuff to do. Moving to my mom's place has been the hardest part as I am chafing under the rules of mom.
Things are looking up as I have a steady job and am helping around the house again.
Well, with that description you sound like a sociopath. I'm not joking.
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Quote from: LinkCelestrial on October 15, 2014, 04:44:41 PM
I have a different experience than most, it seems.
When I was very young (about 6) I attended my first funeral. It was for my grandfather. Since then I've witnessed the aftermath of a great grandmother, grandmother, two aunts, a cousin (he was very young), and two uncles (one great uncle) passing away. (Every time I try to remember all of them I forget one or two.)
Needless to say I've thought about death, a lot. Every time somebody passes away it brings back all the memories.
So what does that mean for me? I'm not sure. I've never cried at a funeral. I'm often lacking an emotional response at all, it's like I'm in shock or it hasn't settled in yet, but it never changes past that. Or there's jealousy and/or anger. (depression does that to you.) I've come to the conclusion that I'm an emotionless prick and though I say this I'm truly not okay with it.
But what about my death? Well, I'm pretty content with it. I even look forward to it. As a Christian I can't wait to go to Heaven, as that's what I believe will happen when I die.
I have morbid daydreams where my family and friends die in all sorts of ways. I don't know why, but I do. They don't really freak me out.
I have to say that you react similarly to tragedy to me. My dad was arrested recently for breaking his parole, and I still have no idea what to think about how I reacted. Quite honestly I had no time to react as he left way too much stuff to do. Moving to my mom's place has been the hardest part as I am chafing under the rules of mom.
Things are looking up as I have a steady job and am helping around the house again.
Wow. Sounds like hell. I need a job, mom won't shut up about it.
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Quote from: Mishra, Artificer Extraordinaire on October 15, 2014, 05:31:28 PM
Well, with that description you sound like a sociopath. I'm not joking.
Me?
Sociopath and Psychopath are used interchangeably. That is incorrect. A sociopath is someone who doesn't or rarely does feel human emotions.
It's not as bad as it sounds. My mom and I learned how to get along all over again, and I am going to finish school on time. The light at the end of this did cause my family to get close again so it's something...
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Quote from: Mishra, Artificer Extraordinaire on October 15, 2014, 05:31:28 PM
Well, with that description you sound like a sociopath. I'm not joking.
Me?
Sociopath and Psychopath are used interchangeably. That is incorrect. A sociopath is someone who doesn't or rarely does feel human emotions.
Ooh sounds like me
Quote from: 5/9 Turtle on October 15, 2014, 07:39:22 PM
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Quote from: Mishra, Artificer Extraordinaire on October 15, 2014, 05:31:28 PM
Well, with that description you sound like a sociopath. I'm not joking.
Me?
Sociopath and Psychopath are used interchangeably. That is incorrect. A sociopath is someone who doesn't or rarely does feel human emotions.
Ooh sounds like me
Lol. I am one. Not joking.
Quote from: Mishra, Artificer Extraordinaire on October 15, 2014, 07:41:09 PM
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Quote from: Mishra, Artificer Extraordinaire on October 15, 2014, 05:31:28 PM
Well, with that description you sound like a sociopath. I'm not joking.
Me?
Sociopath and Psychopath are used interchangeably. That is incorrect. A sociopath is someone who doesn't or rarely does feel human emotions.
Ooh sounds like me
Lol. I am one. Not joking.
It explains a lot. Seriously.
Quote from: Aladormax on October 15, 2014, 07:37:15 PM
It's not as bad as it sounds. My mom and I learned how to get along all over again, and I am going to finish school on time. The light at the end of this did cause my family to get close again so it's something...
That's good. I just wish I could do the same.
Quote from: LinkCelestrial on October 15, 2014, 07:46:36 PM
Quote from: Mishra, Artificer Extraordinaire on October 15, 2014, 07:41:09 PM
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Quote from: Mishra, Artificer Extraordinaire on October 15, 2014, 07:35:02 PM
Quote from: LinkCelestrial on October 15, 2014, 07:17:27 PM
Quote from: Mishra, Artificer Extraordinaire on October 15, 2014, 05:31:28 PM
Well, with that description you sound like a sociopath. I'm not joking.
Me?
Sociopath and Psychopath are used interchangeably. That is incorrect. A sociopath is someone who doesn't or rarely does feel human emotions.
Ooh sounds like me
Lol. I am one. Not joking.
It explains a lot. Seriously.
More common than people think. Also not as bad.
Quote from: LinkCelestrial on October 15, 2014, 07:47:05 PM
Quote from: Aladormax on October 15, 2014, 07:37:15 PM
It's not as bad as it sounds. My mom and I learned how to get along all over again, and I am going to finish school on time. The light at the end of this did cause my family to get close again so it's something...
That's good. I just wish I could do the same.
You just need to put in the time. All things seem easier after hard work was done on them.
Quote from: Mishra, Artificer Extraordinaire on October 15, 2014, 07:47:48 PM
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Quote from: Mishra, Artificer Extraordinaire on October 15, 2014, 07:41:09 PM
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Quote from: Mishra, Artificer Extraordinaire on October 15, 2014, 07:35:02 PM
Quote from: LinkCelestrial on October 15, 2014, 07:17:27 PM
Quote from: Mishra, Artificer Extraordinaire on October 15, 2014, 05:31:28 PM
Well, with that description you sound like a sociopath. I'm not joking.
Me?
Sociopath and Psychopath are used interchangeably. That is incorrect. A sociopath is someone who doesn't or rarely does feel human emotions.
Ooh sounds like me
Lol. I am one. Not joking.
It explains a lot. Seriously.
More common than people think. Also not as bad.
Good to know. Thanks.
Quote from: Aladormax on October 15, 2014, 07:53:22 PM
Quote from: LinkCelestrial on October 15, 2014, 07:47:05 PM
Quote from: Aladormax on October 15, 2014, 07:37:15 PM
It's not as bad as it sounds. My mom and I learned how to get along all over again, and I am going to finish school on time. The light at the end of this did cause my family to get close again so it's something...
That's good. I just wish I could do the same.
You just need to put in the time. All things seem easier after hard work was done on them.
It's not an issue of time. It's an issue of expectations and stubbornness.
Quote from: LinkCelestrial on October 15, 2014, 08:04:52 PM
Quote from: Aladormax on October 15, 2014, 07:53:22 PM
Quote from: LinkCelestrial on October 15, 2014, 07:47:05 PM
Quote from: Aladormax on October 15, 2014, 07:37:15 PM
It's not as bad as it sounds. My mom and I learned how to get along all over again, and I am going to finish school on time. The light at the end of this did cause my family to get close again so it's something...
That's good. I just wish I could do the same.
You just need to put in the time. All things seem easier after hard work was done on them.
It's not an issue of time. It's an issue of expectations and stubbornness.
What are the expectations and who is being stubborn? This is paralleling my situation way too closely to not ask. Feel free to pm me if you don't want to post this here though.
Roth, I literally have been going through the same thing the past few days (I'm 14), and this thread made it a lot easier to get out of my head, one of the reasons this forum is one of the best things that's happened to me in a while.
Quote from: DimirOverlord1300 on October 15, 2014, 09:51:34 PM
Roth, I literally have been going through the same thing the past few days (I'm 14), and this thread made it a lot easier to get out of my head, one of the reasons this forum is one of the best things that's happened to me in a while.
i know exactly what you mean, writing about kept it out of my head and enjoy life!
Quote from: Aladormax on October 15, 2014, 08:21:12 PM
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Quote from: Aladormax on October 15, 2014, 07:53:22 PM
Quote from: LinkCelestrial on October 15, 2014, 07:47:05 PM
Quote from: Aladormax on October 15, 2014, 07:37:15 PM
It's not as bad as it sounds. My mom and I learned how to get along all over again, and I am going to finish school on time. The light at the end of this did cause my family to get close again so it's something...
That's good. I just wish I could do the same.
You just need to put in the time. All things seem easier after hard work was done on them.
It's not an issue of time. It's an issue of expectations and stubbornness.
What are the expectations and who is being stubborn? This is paralleling my situation way too closely to not ask. Feel free to pm me if you don't want to post this here though.
The expectations are that I will get all my chores and schoolwork done each day plus additional stuff without being asked. (I have gotten crap for not doing something I wasn't even asked to do). In one breath I'll be told that I'm on the path to becoming a homeless drug addict and in the next I'm brilliant and full of potential. They expect me to get a job even though I live in a small town so there's nowhere to work (sometimes there is but I get beat out every time.) I can't get my license until I pay for half of drivers ed. To do that I need a job. To get a job I need my license (I've had job offers out of town but I can't get anyone to drive me). See the problem?
The stubbornness is on both our parts. Their's in not believing that I'm not as smart as they think I am (I've started struggling with school, for the first time in my life.) and refusing to acknowledge my issues. When I told them I had depression they said it was my fault and I was being selfish so I needed to get over it. When I told them I have insomnia they said it's my fault for screwing up my sleep cycles and I needed to fix it myself. When I gave myself a concussion on the van door I was told that I was fine until the next day when mom saw me picking dried blood out of my hair. My stubbornness stems from that, I don't talk to them about my issues anymore. I refuse to have deep conversations with them because I'm sick of wearing all the blame and getting nothing for my efforts.
As it stands I'm planning on moving out as soon as I can get money (I'm 18 in February). I don't plan on "running away" but I certainly plan on distancing myself.
(I feel like Im high jacking the thread a little. Not my intention, I can move if need be.)
One last question, approximately where are you located. Where I am public transit is serviceable, but not great. My last job I found was started with a free PDF online of the bus route and applying to almost everywhere that employed people.
Edit I only applied where I could get to.
Quote from: Aladormax on October 16, 2014, 03:47:05 PM
One last question, approximately where are you located. Where I am public transit is serviceable, but not great. My last job I found was started with a free PDF online of the bus route and applying to almost everywhere that employed people.
Edit I only applied where I could get to.
The town is small enough that there is no public transit.
Quote from: LinkCelestrial on October 16, 2014, 05:34:38 PM
Quote from: Aladormax on October 16, 2014, 03:47:05 PM
One last question, approximately where are you located. Where I am public transit is serviceable, but not great. My last job I found was started with a free PDF online of the bus route and applying to almost everywhere that employed people.
Edit I only applied where I could get to.
The town is small enough that there is no public transit.
Is it possible to ask your parents to lay the money out to get you driving and pay them back when you get a job?
Quote from: Aladormax on October 16, 2014, 06:47:01 PM
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Quote from: Aladormax on October 16, 2014, 03:47:05 PM
One last question, approximately where are you located. Where I am public transit is serviceable, but not great. My last job I found was started with a free PDF online of the bus route and applying to almost everywhere that employed people.
Edit I only applied where I could get to.
The town is small enough that there is no public transit.
Is it possible to ask your parents to lay the money out to get you driving and pay them back when you get a job?
Possible? Yes. Probable? No.
Quote from: LinkCelestrial on October 16, 2014, 06:49:01 PM
Quote from: Aladormax on October 16, 2014, 06:47:01 PM
Quote from: LinkCelestrial on October 16, 2014, 05:34:38 PM
Quote from: Aladormax on October 16, 2014, 03:47:05 PM
One last question, approximately where are you located. Where I am public transit is serviceable, but not great. My last job I found was started with a free PDF online of the bus route and applying to almost everywhere that employed people.
Edit I only applied where I could get to.
The town is small enough that there is no public transit.
Is it possible to ask your parents to lay the money out to get you driving and pay them back when you get a job?
Possible? Yes. Probable? No.
Have you?
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Quote from: Aladormax on October 16, 2014, 03:47:05 PM
One last question, approximately where are you located. Where I am public transit is serviceable, but not great. My last job I found was started with a free PDF online of the bus route and applying to almost everywhere that employed people.
Edit I only applied where I could get to.
The town is small enough that there is no public transit.
Is it possible to ask your parents to lay the money out to get you driving and pay them back when you get a job?
Possible? Yes. Probable? No.
Have you?
I have mentioned the idea but the conversation never progressed.
Push for it. This seems like the perfect solution to the problem.
Quote from: Aladormax on October 16, 2014, 07:30:50 PM
Push for it. This seems like the perfect solution to the problem.
I'll see what happens. Thanks.
Good luck. Parents are rough, but yours seem to mean well