Confused and alone

I've been with someone for a five year relationship, and over the course of this relationship We've been through a lot (the cheating, the money, the problems etc). In the past year I've moved across state for him and dumped a .poo. ton of money into the move. And recently, I said to him I want to move back... A response of " you don't really love me" was given! Since I'm many a miles away from family and friends and have no one to vent any of my feelings too, I've turned to drowning myself in skyrim and mtg.  I wake up every day wondering if I'm in love or I'm just a victim of circumstance, and when ever I try to talk to my bf he changes the subject in to a vent of how his life sucks!?!?!??

His life consists of working 2-3 hrs a day while I work 80 a week to support "the life we built" (not an extravagant one mind you) ... He can go n but a set of clothes every week and not pay his portion of the rent then while wearing those clothes he bought he says I'm hungry but don't have ne money for food .love. YOU!

I really am just venting the feelings of whether to stay and deal or pack up and leave?

Sounds like an .rearexit. dump him asap dude doesn't deserve you apparently

This is a toxic relationship. I'm all for making things work so maybe you can try to sit down and say things need to change, give it a few weeks and go from there.

Does he seem like the stalker ex type? Cause I'm getting those vibes.

The bottom line is he doesn't deserve you. The relationship right now is you giving and him taking and that's not acceptable or healthy. From this sample of his attitude it doesn't sound like he's ready or willing to change. If you think it's worth it have a serious sit down. Otherwise get that toxicity out of your life.

Thank u both for listening and talking you both r amazing ppl don't forget that! I've been trying to talk with him but always ends with him venting of his life goals, dreams, problems... I take time to be able to talk and he doesn't want to give me that time... This is my first relationship to last longer than a week I'm just trying to have him understand my point he just runs from views

There is also two cats that are 4.5 yrs old which we got together n I can't just leave them nor will he let them go ... Then our mtg collection is mushed together there's over 100000 cards I'm not willing to split lol ( a bit selfish but I've paid for three quater of it)

I also don't want to see him fall bc of a decision I'm making ... After all I still am a good friend whose stood by him and reverse

Sell the collection, bounce and start a better life for you and your child. The father isn't going to grow up until he's down and out. You don't need two children to take care of.

Save yourself time, don't make this decision years down the line.

Change is good and the idea of permanence of a situation will cause change, you just can't stay in purgatory with him, it'll waste your time.

Speaking from first hand experience. You need to be able to exist as a person independent of him. He sounds just like someone I've spent a large part of my life dealing with. Someone who uses people as a means to his or her own end, and can find all the excuses in the world for why bad things happen to him or her.

 At some point, he will have to face facts and address his situation through whatever way works (therapy, radical life changes, growing a pair, etc.) in the end, for you it's how soon that day will come. Don't let yourself fall into the trappings of trying to "do what's right." You should never have to pull 90% of the weight fiscally and emotionally in a relationship.

Muggy lol no children just two kitties lol gay men can't bear child yet lol

And thank u guys I've needed friends to talk with and while we all don't know each other personally I'm glad you guys took time to read and help in a way no one around me could  love too you all I'll keep posted on my endeavor bc it seem like you care about one another

#imtgfamily

#imtgfamily is definently a thing

If he keeps flipping serious conversations into him venting that is a form of emotional abuse. You shouldn't put up with that.

If he's just going to let the cats go then he shouldn't care if you take them. Or if that's not practical make other arrangements for them.

Muggy's idea is probably the best. Each of you can keep stuff that's obviously yours and liquidate the rest to start new collections.

"I also don't want to see him fall because of a decision I'm making."

I can totally understand that. I have clung to broken relationships for similar reasons.  This is grade A loyalty on your part and a shinning example of why you deserve so much better. You deserve someone who's willing to put the same amount of effort into your relationship as you are, and this is not the guy.

He has been putting himself first in your relationship. It's time for you to put yourself first. The best you can do is make it as painless as possible. Pick your battles when it comes to who gets what. You've already given him more than he deserves.

Just posting this here since it seems appropriate. datingasocio.....of-themself/

Interesting so I like playing control and I hate losing does that mean I'm crazy. Oh well better check myself into a insane asylum

So I'm telling him tmro and very nervous , but I'm getting to the point of needing a pill to sort through my mind and I'm not for that.  I'm going to be blunt and to the point so that there is no way he can change the subject

So I'm telling him tmro and very nervous , but I'm getting to the point of needing a pill to sort through my mind and I'm not for that.  I'm going to be blunt and to the point so that there is no way he can change the subject

Best of luck! Let us know how it goes.

So we have been arguing since Saturday ... And the conversation is that Ive not thought of his feelings or his situation, and that I'm just running away leaving him in a town so I don't have to be a man

"The cats are his" "everything in the house we bought" "your never going to happy again" "we spent five years together and this is how you treat me" ..... These are the less ranty versions of wat he was been screaming about

Every time I go to defend myself it goes like this:
Me: I sorry for causeing you pain but I'm not happy anymore
Him: your going to leave me stranded with nothing and your going to just leave me alone while I go through school but you can say with no intention to hurt me? Wat the .love. r u thinking I  done everything for you and you just leave me .love. you
/he walks away/

Wtf???

I've paid for everything and everything in this house came from my pocket and he was done nothing for me besides empty my wallet and sex ... And a prostetute is cheaper then him so really

Seriously: sell collection and bounce.

Wasting your time sweety