This IS goodbye

Alex2911 · April 30, 2012, 02:52:59 PM

Well guys (n gals if it should apply) it looks like this may be it. I may be giving up MTG for good.

Kali has asked that I give it up. She wants me to so her n I can spend more time together.

This may be goodbye, unless you guys can help me come up with a reason to convince her to not make me give it up.

BlackJester · April 30, 2012, 03:14:14 PM

It's your choice, but I wouldn't be impressed with someone giving me conditions for dating like that. If you're expected to drop hobbies for your partner, what else is she going to have you do? "No, I don't want you to hang out with that guy anymore." "I think you should wear this sweater." "Join the military or I'll leave you."

If you consider Magic as a part of who you are (I know I do), then she should be willing to accept you for who you are, not ask you to change. Does she want to spend every waking minute with you?

FWIW, it's never even been a negotiable for me. I play Magic, deal with it.

/rant

Fenster · April 30, 2012, 03:18:38 PM

Quote from: BlackJester on April 30, 2012, 03:14:14 PM
It's your choice, but I wouldn't be impressed with someone giving me conditions for dating like that. If you're expected to drop hobbies for your partner, what else is she going to have you do? "No, I don't want you to hang out with that guy anymore." "I think you should wear this sweater." "Join the military or I'll leave you."

If you consider Magic as a part of who you are (I know I do), then she should be willing to accept you for who you are, not ask you to change. Does she want to spend every waking minute with you?

FWIW, it's never even been a negotiable for me. I play Magic, deal with it.

/rant

Amen brother!

My GF had a very unapproving-ish opinion of mtg at first. Now shes super hyped for AVR because she always wanted to play with angles.

JaCe BeLeReN · April 30, 2012, 03:25:56 PM

A good couple supports each others hobbies even if they don't enjoy them. Is shes asking you to give it up she may not be the best person to have a relationship with. BUT the ax cuts both ways. You may bee to play MTG a little less if you want to keep a relationship. Moderation is key.

Willthomjr · April 30, 2012, 03:27:33 PM

Quote from: JaCe BeLeReN on April 30, 2012, 03:25:56 PM
A good couple supports each others hobbies even if they don't enjoy them. Is shes asking you to give it up she may not be the best person to have a relationship with. BUT the ax cuts both ways. You may bee to play MTG a little less if you want to keep a relationship. Moderation is key.

Thank you for saying moderation.

Big difference between an addiction and a hobby.

BlackJester · April 30, 2012, 03:27:42 PM

Quote from: Fenster on April 30, 2012, 03:18:38 PM
Amen brother!

My GF had a very unapproving-ish opinion of mtg at first. Now shes super hyped for AVR because she always wanted to play with angles.

Obtuse or acute?

Fenster · April 30, 2012, 03:38:15 PM

Quote from: BlackJester on April 30, 2012, 03:27:42 PM
Quote from: Fenster on April 30, 2012, 03:18:38 PM
Amen brother!

My GF had a very unapproving-ish opinion of mtg at first. Now shes super hyped for AVR because she always wanted to play with angles.
Obtuse or acute?

I have no idea what that means...

JaCe BeLeReN · April 30, 2012, 03:41:06 PM

Quote from: Fenster on April 30, 2012, 03:38:15 PM
Quote from: BlackJester on April 30, 2012, 03:27:42 PM
Quote from: Fenster on April 30, 2012, 03:18:38 PM
Amen brother!

My GF had a very unapproving-ish opinion of mtg at first. Now shes super hyped for AVR because she always wanted to play with angles.
Obtuse or acute?
I have no idea what that means...

Obtuse > 90 degrees
Acute < 90 degrees

Greg54js · April 30, 2012, 03:43:22 PM

Quote from: Fenster on April 30, 2012, 03:38:15 PM
Quote from: BlackJester on April 30, 2012, 03:27:42 PM
Quote from: Fenster on April 30, 2012, 03:18:38 PM
Amen brother!

My GF had a very unapproving-ish opinion of mtg at first. Now shes super hyped for AVR because she always wanted to play with angles.
Obtuse or acute?
I have no idea what that means...

You said angles not angels

Fenster · April 30, 2012, 03:45:18 PM

Quote from: JaCe BeLeReN on April 30, 2012, 03:41:06 PM
Quote from: Fenster on April 30, 2012, 03:38:15 PM
Quote from: BlackJester on April 30, 2012, 03:27:42 PM
Quote from: Fenster on April 30, 2012, 03:18:38 PM
Amen brother!

My GF had a very unapproving-ish opinion of mtg at first. Now shes super hyped for AVR because she always wanted to play with angles.
Obtuse or acute?
I have no idea what that means...
Obtuse > 90 degrees
Acute < 90 degrees

Ok... Thanks for reminding me that im not the brightest pixel on the flatscreen...
What does this mean? xD

Greg54js · April 30, 2012, 03:49:38 PM

It means is she playing with obtuse or acute angles (angels)?

DirtyMustachio · April 30, 2012, 04:20:37 PM

So If I can't eat for the rest of the week because I spent my money on magic that's bad right?

Honestly dude see how things go with the girl, explain how you don't need to give up magic but just do it when your in your leisure at times you wouldnt normally be able to see each other anyway. But do give her attention. It doesn't sound like she has a huge disdain for the game itself

BlackJester · April 30, 2012, 04:28:31 PM

Quote from: Alex2911 on April 30, 2012, 04:15:05 PM
Quote from: BlackJester on April 30, 2012, 03:14:14 PM
It's your choice, but I wouldn't be impressed with someone giving me conditions for dating like that. If you're expected to drop hobbies for your partner, what else is she going to have you do? "No, I don't want you to hang out with that guy anymore." "I think you should wear this sweater." "Join the military or I'll leave you."

If you consider Magic as a part of who you are (I know I do), then she should be willing to accept you for who you are, not ask you to change. Does she want to spend every waking minute with you?

FWIW, it's never even been a negotiable for me. I play Magic, deal with it.

/rant

You know what Jester, you're absolutely right.

Screw her, Magic is my life.

(now to post that cockatrice guide)

Well, let's not be to drastic. Can't you explain to her that magic is important to you and that she should be able to accept that? It shouldn't have to be an either/or situation.

My guess it that she associates Magic with your relationship with RJ. I could be wrong, it's hard to see from here.

Also, how much time do you spend playing Magic? Is it interfering with other areas of your life?

BadLuckIrish · April 30, 2012, 04:38:08 PM

Alright Steve. Your name Steve? Well it is now.

You have more than 2 options Steve, her or magic. There is also reasoning. Bring up something she likes to do and tell her if i give up magic u give up that. and when she says thats stupid then u explain how magic is a hobby and something you like to do and if she wants to hinder something you like to do Steve, then she must do the same.

Relationships are give and take. Trust been in one for almost 2 years (May 19 will be it.) My lovely and crazy girl Diana told me once to stop playing League of Legends (Renekton ftw) and i told her to stop watching anime then. As of today im still playig and she is still watching anime.

Now go Steve! Go and be a man Steve! So that i could be proud to call you Steve!

Fenster · April 30, 2012, 05:12:07 PM

Quote from: Greg54js on April 30, 2012, 03:43:22 PM
Quote from: Fenster on April 30, 2012, 03:38:15 PM
Quote from: BlackJester on April 30, 2012, 03:27:42 PM
Quote from: Fenster on April 30, 2012, 03:18:38 PM
Amen brother!

My GF had a very unapproving-ish opinion of mtg at first. Now shes super hyped for AVR because she always wanted to play with angles.
Obtuse or acute?
I have no idea what that means...

You said angles not angels

God dang it...
/Facepalm