"Hypothetical" question involving girls

[Thetrufflehunter]

Hypothetically, I have a girlfriend. Hypothetically, she feels like she's unequal to me, and that she feels sad a lot. That our relationship isn't the same lately.

Hypothetically what do I do?

[the_intelligentleman]

Get her flowers, tell her how much she means to you, and hug her.

[Cender]

Hypothetically, I have a girlfriend. Hypothetically, she feels like she's unequal to me, and that she feels sad a lot. That our relationship isn't the same lately.

Hypothetically what do I do?

define "unequal". Does she feel like your needs come first before her needs? Or that you're better than her in some way and she's undeserving?

The main thing it sounds like she needs is reassurance from you that you still have feelings for her, and that you care about what she needs from the relationship.

Is she sad all the time or just around you? Are you the one in some way unbeknownst to you making her sad?

[Thetrufflehunter]

Unequal as in my life is "perfect". I'm the teachers pet to all of my teachers, a straight A student, am always called on to run errands for my home room teacher, successful Boy Scout, (pretty sure) the most popular boy in my class, etc.

I wish it was as easy as giving her flowers... Last night we were talking, and we worked out that she needed some space. I'm to treat her like a normal friend for probably the next week, to give her breathing room.

[Wingnut]

Honestly man, she may just not be happy in the relationship. It happens, it's not your fault, not her fault, just simply the compatibility of two humans. There is nothing wrong with it, especially at a young age. This probably won't be the last time it happens to you. Just be glad it didn't take a marriage and a couple kids to figure it out (ask me how I know). A relationship is supposed to be easy, if you two are meant to be together, you'll find an easy way to make it happen. Do what you can do to help her feel comfortable in the relationship, but DO NOT force it, it will not help. Good luck man, and still build her that zombie deck, there is ZERO reason you cannot still be friends.

[Thetrufflehunter]

Honestly man, she may just not be happy in the relationship. It happens, it's not your fault, not her fault, just simply the compatibility of two humans. There is nothing wrong with it, especially at a young age. This probably won't be the last time it happens to you. Just be glad it didn't take a marriage and a couple kids to figure it out (ask me how I know). A relationship is supposed to be easy, if you two are meant to be together, you'll find an easy way to make it happen. Do what you can do to help her feel comfortable in the relationship, but DO NOT force it, it will not help. Good luck man, and still build her that zombie deck, there is ZERO reason you cannot still be friends.

Probably the best advice I've received 😊

I'm not calling it quits yet. We'll see what happens once she is done with the gap. You know you love someone when you roll over and realize it's past midnight and you've been writing a sonnet about her for the past 20 minutes.

[particle]

Honestly man, she may just not be happy in the relationship. It happens, it's not your fault, not her fault, just simply the compatibility of two humans. There is nothing wrong with it, especially at a young age. This probably won't be the last time it happens to you. Just be glad it didn't take a marriage and a couple kids to figure it out (ask me how I know). A relationship is supposed to be easy, if you two are meant to be together, you'll find an easy way to make it happen. Do what you can do to help her feel comfortable in the relationship, but DO NOT force it, it will not help. Good luck man, and still build her that zombie deck, there is ZERO reason you cannot still be friends.

I agree with the above except the "relationships should be easy" part. Committed long term relationships take work from both sides.  There are no two humans who are 100% satisfied 100% of the time without putting effort in and facing challenges. Best o luck.

[Cender]

Honestly man, she may just not be happy in the relationship. It happens, it's not your fault, not her fault, just simply the compatibility of two humans. There is nothing wrong with it, especially at a young age. This probably won't be the last time it happens to you. Just be glad it didn't take a marriage and a couple kids to figure it out (ask me how I know). A relationship is supposed to be easy, if you two are meant to be together, you'll find an easy way to make it happen. Do what you can do to help her feel comfortable in the relationship, but DO NOT force it, it will not help. Good luck man, and still build her that zombie deck, there is ZERO reason you cannot still be friends.

I agree with the above except the "relationships should be easy" part. Committed long term relationships take work from both sides.  There are no two humans who are 100% satisfied 100% of the time without putting effort in and facing challenges. Best o luck.

This. The important thing is that you're communicating and that you don't stop communicating.

[Mr_Fahrenheit]

My advice is dump your hypothetical girlfriend and get a real one. They are much more fun when they are real. Then again they are much easier to please when they are hypothetical. Now i dont know what im recommending. Sorry :S

[Thetrufflehunter]

My advice is dump your hypothetical girlfriend and get a real one. They are much more fun when they are real. Then again they are much easier to please when they are hypothetical. Now i dont know what im recommending. Sorry :S

This hypothetical girlfriend exists >.>

[particle]

Hypothetical girls are much better. Talk and cost much less.

[Cender]

Hypothetical girls are much better. Talk and cost much less.

I got lucky - my girlfriend apologized to me for buying about ten different shirts and jeans and spending about $65 overall. Said she spent too much, lol

[MuggyWuggy]

If you like it, then why don't you put a ring on it. 💍👆

[Wingnut]

Honestly man, she may just not be happy in the relationship. It happens, it's not your fault, not her fault, just simply the compatibility of two humans. There is nothing wrong with it, especially at a young age. This probably won't be the last time it happens to you. Just be glad it didn't take a marriage and a couple kids to figure it out (ask me how I know). A relationship is supposed to be easy, if you two are meant to be together, you'll find an easy way to make it happen. Do what you can do to help her feel comfortable in the relationship, but DO NOT force it, it will not help. Good luck man, and still build her that zombie deck, there is ZERO reason you cannot still be friends.

I agree with the above except the "relationships should be easy" part. Committed long term relationships take work from both sides.  There are no two humans who are 100% satisfied 100% of the time without putting effort in and facing challenges. Best o luck.

I agree with this, there is no perfect relationship, but it also shouldn't be hard. I used to think this same thing, that relationships require hard work. But let me tell you, me and my now fiancé, just click. It is frankly, easy. We have the same personality so we just mesh. There is such a thing as an easy relationship. The key is finding and recognizing it when you do.

[Munchlax]

First of all, is she depressed. I had a girlfriend once who was and she seemed to feel the same way your hypothetical one does. If this turns out to be the case, don't buy her flowers, she wants you to have fun with her. Do something she likes. Make her feel special and loved. Even if she doesn't have some mental illness do this anyway. Make your girl loved man.