Friend help.

[theravenseye]

Need some help with a friend guys. She's planning to run away with her dad's cash and never come back. She thinks that she's not owned by the family and that the family is oppressing her in such a way that she doesn't get to do anything anymore. Any advice you could give me for a situation like this?

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Calling dyfus?

[theravenseye]

Seriously man.

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Seriously man.

I was being serious. What does oppressing her in a way she can't do anything anymore mean? She can't go on sleepovers with her friends, or she has to eat beans from a can every night? Those are very different. If she's actually being neglected or anything that's one thing, but if she's just basically grounded that's very different.

[Rass]

I would say talk to her and try to get her to realize it's a bad decision. Ask her about her plans after the money runs out. Where is she going to stay. Possibly look up other runaway stories and see how they end up. Hooked on drugs and prostitution. Try and get her to see her parents point of view. Also let her know you are there for her and will help any way you can.

But before you do any of this I would check runaway websites and see what people trained in this would suggest. They should even have a phone number to call.

Good luck with this isn't great that you are trying to help a friend.

[Silent1236]

Seriously man.

I was being serious. What does oppressing her in a way she can't do anything anymore mean? She can't go on sleepovers with her friends, or she has to eat beans from a can every night? Those are very different. If she's actually being neglected or anything that's one thing, but if she's just basically grounded that's very different.

This. Teenage mentality can skew things pretty terribly.

[LinkCelestrial]

Figure out what makes it unbearable. I don't have an amazing home life and there are days I want to run away. Hell I've planned it a few times. But my home life is not that horrible. It's a matter of perspective.

It's always ALWAYS a better option to try and get a job and build up money so you can leave when you're 18 and stand on your own feet. Stealing your parents money is never a realistic option. Please try to reason her out of that and convince her to work towards that goal.

If it's a seriously abusive situation then she needs to get out. Is it possible for her to stay with you family? If it's serious abuse (emotional, physical or sexual) see about getting your parents on board.

I hate to be that guy but from my previous experiences with these situations she's not serious. She's either not thinking straight or attention seeking.