Well guys (n gals if it should apply) it looks like this may be it. I may be giving up MTG for good.
Kali has asked that I give it up. She wants me to so her n I can spend more time together.
This may be goodbye, unless you guys can help me come up with a reason to convince her to not make me give it up.
It's your choice, but I wouldn't be impressed with someone giving me conditions for dating like that. If you're expected to drop hobbies for your partner, what else is she going to have you do? "No, I don't want you to hang out with that guy anymore." "I think you should wear this sweater." "Join the military or I'll leave you."
If you consider Magic as a part of who you are (I know I do), then she should be willing to accept you for who you are, not ask you to change. Does she want to spend every waking minute with you?
FWIW, it's never even been a negotiable for me. I play Magic, deal with it.
/rant
Quote from: BlackJester on April 30, 2012, 03:14:14 PM
It's your choice, but I wouldn't be impressed with someone giving me conditions for dating like that. If you're expected to drop hobbies for your partner, what else is she going to have you do? "No, I don't want you to hang out with that guy anymore." "I think you should wear this sweater." "Join the military or I'll leave you."
If you consider Magic as a part of who you are (I know I do), then she should be willing to accept you for who you are, not ask you to change. Does she want to spend every waking minute with you?
FWIW, it's never even been a negotiable for me. I play Magic, deal with it.
/rant
Amen brother!
My GF had a very unapproving-ish opinion of mtg at first. Now shes super hyped for AVR because she always wanted to play with angles.
A good couple supports each others hobbies even if they don't enjoy them. Is shes asking you to give it up she may not be the best person to have a relationship with. BUT the ax cuts both ways. You may bee to play MTG a little less if you want to keep a relationship. Moderation is key.
Quote from: JaCe BeLeReN on April 30, 2012, 03:25:56 PM
A good couple supports each others hobbies even if they don't enjoy them. Is shes asking you to give it up she may not be the best person to have a relationship with. BUT the ax cuts both ways. You may bee to play MTG a little less if you want to keep a relationship. Moderation is key.
Thank you for saying moderation.
Big difference between an addiction and a hobby.
Quote from: Fenster on April 30, 2012, 03:18:38 PM
Amen brother!
My GF had a very unapproving-ish opinion of mtg at first. Now shes super hyped for AVR because she always wanted to play with angles.
Obtuse or acute? :P
Quote from: BlackJester on April 30, 2012, 03:27:42 PM
Quote from: Fenster on April 30, 2012, 03:18:38 PM
Amen brother!
My GF had a very unapproving-ish opinion of mtg at first. Now shes super hyped for AVR because she always wanted to play with angles.
Obtuse or acute? :P
I have no idea what that means...
Quote from: Fenster on April 30, 2012, 03:38:15 PM
Quote from: BlackJester on April 30, 2012, 03:27:42 PM
Quote from: Fenster on April 30, 2012, 03:18:38 PM
Amen brother!
My GF had a very unapproving-ish opinion of mtg at first. Now shes super hyped for AVR because she always wanted to play with angles.
Obtuse or acute? :P
I have no idea what that means...
Obtuse > 90 degrees
Acute < 90 degrees
Quote from: Fenster on April 30, 2012, 03:38:15 PM
Quote from: BlackJester on April 30, 2012, 03:27:42 PM
Quote from: Fenster on April 30, 2012, 03:18:38 PM
Amen brother!
My GF had a very unapproving-ish opinion of mtg at first. Now shes super hyped for AVR because she always wanted to play with angles.
Obtuse or acute? :P
I have no idea what that means...
You said angles not angels
Quote from: JaCe BeLeReN on April 30, 2012, 03:41:06 PM
Quote from: Fenster on April 30, 2012, 03:38:15 PM
Quote from: BlackJester on April 30, 2012, 03:27:42 PM
Quote from: Fenster on April 30, 2012, 03:18:38 PM
Amen brother!
My GF had a very unapproving-ish opinion of mtg at first. Now shes super hyped for AVR because she always wanted to play with angles.
Obtuse or acute? :P
I have no idea what that means...
Obtuse > 90 degrees
Acute < 90 degrees
Ok... Thanks for reminding me that im not the brightest pixel on the flatscreen...
What does this mean? xD
It means is she playing with obtuse or acute angles (angels)?
So If I can't eat for the rest of the week because I spent my money on magic that's bad right?
Honestly dude see how things go with the girl, explain how you don't need to give up magic but just do it when your in your leisure at times you wouldnt normally be able to see each other anyway. But do give her attention. It doesn't sound like she has a huge disdain for the game itself
Quote from: Alex2911 on April 30, 2012, 04:15:05 PM
Quote from: BlackJester on April 30, 2012, 03:14:14 PM
It's your choice, but I wouldn't be impressed with someone giving me conditions for dating like that. If you're expected to drop hobbies for your partner, what else is she going to have you do? "No, I don't want you to hang out with that guy anymore." "I think you should wear this sweater." "Join the military or I'll leave you."
If you consider Magic as a part of who you are (I know I do), then she should be willing to accept you for who you are, not ask you to change. Does she want to spend every waking minute with you?
FWIW, it's never even been a negotiable for me. I play Magic, deal with it.
/rant
You know what Jester, you're absolutely right.
Screw her, Magic is my life.
(now to post that cockatrice guide)
Well, let's not be to drastic. Can't you explain to her that magic is important to you and that she should be able to accept that? It shouldn't have to be an either/or situation.
My guess it that she associates Magic with your relationship with RJ. I could be wrong, it's hard to see from here.
Also, how much time do you spend playing Magic? Is it interfering with other areas of your life?
Alright Steve. Your name Steve? Well it is now.
You have more than 2 options Steve, her or magic. There is also reasoning. Bring up something she likes to do and tell her if i give up magic u give up that. and when she says thats stupid then u explain how magic is a hobby and something you like to do and if she wants to hinder something you like to do Steve, then she must do the same.
Relationships are give and take. Trust been in one for almost 2 years (May 19 will be it.) My lovely and crazy girl Diana told me once to stop playing League of Legends (Renekton ftw) and i told her to stop watching anime then. As of today im still playig and she is still watching anime.
Now go Steve! Go and be a man Steve! So that i could be proud to call you Steve!
Quote from: Greg54js on April 30, 2012, 03:43:22 PM
Quote from: Fenster on April 30, 2012, 03:38:15 PM
Quote from: BlackJester on April 30, 2012, 03:27:42 PM
Quote from: Fenster on April 30, 2012, 03:18:38 PM
Amen brother!
My GF had a very unapproving-ish opinion of mtg at first. Now shes super hyped for AVR because she always wanted to play with angles.
Obtuse or acute? :P
I have no idea what that means...
You said angles not angels
God dang it...
/Facepalm
Why must people lay down conditionals?! I'm in it with Jester, it's not worth just giving her an 'Accept or GTFO', compromise is important. Relationships go nowhere without it.
Besides, doesnt Batman have a new gf every volume/episode/movie?
Quote from: Alex2911 on April 30, 2012, 08:31:02 PM
Quote from: Spikepit on April 30, 2012, 08:18:54 PM
Why must people lay down conditionals?! I'm in it with Jester, it's not worth just giving her an 'Accept or GTFO', compromise is important. Relationships go nowhere without it.
Besides, doesnt Batman have a new gf every volume/episode/movie?
Hahaha... No. In the dark knight trilogy he didn't have a girlfriend. In the original ( Jack Nocholson Joker) he didn't officially have a girlfriend they were just drunk. In Batman and Robin and Batman Returns he didn't either. And he didn't in Batman forever either. There's a long stretch in the comics (about twenty or twenty five issues) where he didn't either. And then the 60s batman (Adam West) didn't either.
Maybe then, batman is in love w/Alfred?
Quote from: Alex2911 on April 30, 2012, 09:21:50 PM
Quote from: DirtyMustachio on April 30, 2012, 08:46:28 PM
Quote from: Alex2911 on April 30, 2012, 08:31:02 PM
Quote from: Spikepit on April 30, 2012, 08:18:54 PM
Why must people lay down conditionals?! I'm in it with Jester, it's not worth just giving her an 'Accept or GTFO', compromise is important. Relationships go nowhere without it.
Besides, doesnt Batman have a new gf every volume/episode/movie?
Hahaha... No. In the dark knight trilogy he didn't have a girlfriend. In the original ( Jack Nocholson Joker) he didn't officially have a girlfriend they were just drunk. In Batman and Robin and Batman Returns he didn't either. And he didn't in Batman forever either. There's a long stretch in the comics (about twenty or twenty five issues) where he didn't either. And then the 60s batman (Adam West) didn't either.
Maybe then, batman is in love w/Alfred?
Did you just call my idol a homosexual? Oh you're dead now.
Hey homosexual isn't bad. It's perfectly ok. In fact if batman was gay then maybe people wouldn't treat it like such a big deal. People get KILLED over being gay and we JOKE about it. 😥
Why do my jokes always get blown out of proportion... -zips it-
Quote from: DirtyMustachio on April 30, 2012, 09:37:21 PM
Why do my jokes always get blown out of proportion... -zips it-
I don't know😰
Word of advice. I told my girlfriend when we started dating (2 and a half years and still going strong) that this was fun for me and I enjoy it. She asked why since it was a card game. I told her, straight up, "because it gives me a chance to be creative and interact with my friends". She understood that and said she wanted to learn. I couldn't help but feel like she did it for me bc she knew it was part of me. But I made her a deck and now she is always invited to "guys night" aka needing out in my basement with my friends.
My suggestion. Maybe make her a deck. Get her involved. Show her that it is important to you and you want to share it with her. They want to feel involved. Even if they don't find it as fascinating as you do. Believe me, my girlfriend took me on a tour of MetLife stadium (giants stadium in NJ) , I know she isn't as crazy about football as I am. But she enjoyed it nonetheless.
Quote from: BlackJester on April 30, 2012, 03:14:14 PM
It's your choice, but I wouldn't be impressed with someone giving me conditions for dating like that. If you're expected to drop hobbies for your partner, what else is she going to have you do? "No, I don't want you to hang out with that guy anymore." "I think you should wear this sweater." "Join the military or I'll leave you."
If you consider Magic as a part of who you are (I know I do), then she should be willing to accept you for who you are, not ask you to change. Does she want to spend every waking minute with you?
FWIW, it's never even been a negotiable for me. I play Magic, deal with it.
/rant
a tear fell from my {eye of ugin}
Quote from: Alex2911 on April 30, 2012, 09:21:50 PM
Quote from: DirtyMustachio on April 30, 2012, 08:46:28 PM
Quote from: Alex2911 on April 30, 2012, 08:31:02 PM
Quote from: Spikepit on April 30, 2012, 08:18:54 PM
Why must people lay down conditionals?! I'm in it with Jester, it's not worth just giving her an 'Accept or GTFO', compromise is important. Relationships go nowhere without it.
Besides, doesnt Batman have a new gf every volume/episode/movie?
Hahaha... No. In the dark knight trilogy he didn't have a girlfriend. In the original ( Jack Nocholson Joker) he didn't officially have a girlfriend they were just drunk. In Batman and Robin and Batman Returns he didn't either. And he didn't in Batman forever either. There's a long stretch in the comics (about twenty or twenty five issues) where he didn't either. And then the 60s batman (Adam West) didn't either.
Maybe then, batman is in love w/Alfred?
Did you just call my idol a homosexual? Oh you're dead now.
You're Batman, you wear tights and slide down poles. You spend a whole lot of money on accessories, including a belt. You hang out with a minor (who also wears tights) who's first name is Dick. I have no problem with gays (I have a some friends who are gay), but how much more homo-erotic can a super-powerless superhero be?
BTW, I AM IRONMAN!
I'd like to be the hulk if that's all cool?
Correction: I am Tony Stark. Iron Man's just a suit, Stark is a rich, brilliant, robotics engineer, and thus MY IDOL!
So that makes Bruce Banner....HULK SMASH METAL SUIT!!!!! 😜😜😜😡😡😡😡😡😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
If it comes down to a real (or even hypothetical) decision between her and the game it should be an easy call. If you're serious about her then let go of the game. If not, do her the courtesy of letting her know your priorities. If the room is too crowded with hobbies and relationships you are going to have to choose one or the other. Which one do you want the most?
My wife gave me the same ultimatum. I told her that I enjoy this game and I could not let it go.......now mind you I did not tell her until a couple days later when things settled down. I explained to her the importance of the game and I promised that I would tone it down a bit....hence the reason I have not been on here too much. I tried numerous times to teach her the game but she will have no part of it. I don't really have an answer for you bud other than telling you that ppl go through these things and you guys have to find a happy median through compromise and sacrifice from both sides.
gf told me it was me or the game, im now single and okay with it cause i mean if you cant accept me for me and my hobbies then your not worth my time.
I love when the forums turn into daytime television. No joke.
I'm also still laughing about the angles joke.
Quote from: SpiritedAway on May 01, 2012, 11:20:19 AM
I love when the forums turn into daytime television. No joke.
I'm also still laughing about the angles joke.
*bows* Thank you, thank you! Just here for your amusement. 8)
Quote from: BlackJester on April 30, 2012, 03:14:14 PM
It's your choice, but I wouldn't be impressed with someone giving me conditions for dating like that. If you're expected to drop hobbies for your partner, what else is she going to have you do? "No, I don't want you to hang out with that guy anymore." "I think you should wear this sweater." "Join the military or I'll leave you."
If you consider Magic as a part of who you are (I know I do), then she should be willing to accept you for who you are, not ask you to change. Does she want to spend every waking minute with you?
FWIW, it's never even been a negotiable for me. I play Magic, deal with it.
/rant
Don't hate on the military now, BJ. I am in the Army and a two time Iraq vet.
In related news, I feel lucky, my tough chick/badass gf took to most of my favorite hobbies, even buying herself a .9mm version of my .45 to shoot with me, she is learning magic in three days after she finishes her finals for her second degree.
Quote from: CajunJynx on May 01, 2012, 02:58:48 PM
Don't hate on the military now, BJ. I am in the Army and a two time Iraq vet.
I wasn't hating on the military, just giving an example of as extreme life choice to force on someone.
I just tell my wife that I could be at the bar spending big 💰 on 🍺🍺🍺🍺🍺🍺 and spending time with drunk chicks.
Quote from: Rasser on May 01, 2012, 03:30:08 PM
I just tell my wife that I could be at the bar spending big 💰 on 🍺🍺🍺🍺🍺🍺 and spending time with drunk chicks.
Haha! Conversation over!!!
Have fun.
Goodbye.😢
Women are fun.
But friendship is magic.
And we'll be here. Both your friends and Magic.
Im not a /b/rony btw... Bad show.
Have a good time with your lady friend, then