Alright, story time.
I'm 15, pretty normal. Not popular but well liked by everyone. Pretty respected person.
My ex and I were going out for 4 months. A month ago we sort of stopped liking each other, and a few days ago she officially left me.
Now, this is GOOD, because I stopped liking her because I started liking this other girl, Heather.
Heather and I have been friends for awhile and she actually helped me get with my ex a few months ago. Recently, we've been texting a ton and hanging out more and she's seemed to be into me, and a lot of our mutual friends thought this too. The issue is, I'm roughly the same height as her, and she has a very precise height range (1-5 inches taller than her) that I'm not in and she's been really vague about everything. So I strait up asked her if I got into that range in a few months, whether she'd consider me (she knows I like her) and she straight up texted her and said "you won't be so don't ask". I don't know how to respond so I didn't mention it again, but she cut off all talking. We were even having a conversation (texting) while it happened and she just cut it off. So now I'm in a really shitty mood, but I can't talk to my family because I've not even told them my ex and I broke up (they're not good people) and I can't tell my friends because they either don't know heather or can't offer good advice. What do I do?
Really, if a girl will reject you because of your height, she's not worth it.
However, I don't know her at all, so maybe if you give it some time, you'll be able to show her you can make up for that in other areas.
Don't change yourself to fit other's needs/wants. Your height isn't of your control. I mean, if I could be 15 feet tall, I would be. :D
As Kaylesh said, "maybe you can make up for it in other areas?" Don't be discouraged, there's a lot of fish in the sea. :)
If she's going to not consider you because of your height, that's shallow af. A 1-5 inch window, you serious? As a 6'5" male I have a /preference/ for a taller girl (try hugging someone when you're like, a foot taller than them). But that's what it is, a preference. She's obviously not mature enough for a serious relationship and I'm going to warn you right now, there are more issues than that waiting for you if you get into a relationship with her. If asking her about it produced that kind of response it's going to be hell for you later.
TL DR, she's not mature enough to be worth your time. Worse stuff will come if you pursue it. Let her go.
Yeah, everybody's correct, I guess. Can't control my height, she shouldn't be so picky. Thanks.
Quote from: Handsome Jack on May 16, 2015, 04:25:10 PM
Yeah, everybody's correct, I guess. Can't control my height, she shouldn't be so picky. Thanks.
Anytime. Seriously, anytime.
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Quote from: Handsome Jack on May 16, 2015, 04:25:10 PM
Yeah, everybody's correct, I guess. Can't control my height, she shouldn't be so picky. Thanks.
Anytime. Seriously, anytime.
Yeah, I may ask you guys more. I have a good deal of issues and an awful sense of how to resolve them. Borderline personality disorder, woo.
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Yeah, everybody's correct, I guess. Can't control my height, she shouldn't be so picky. Thanks.
Anytime. Seriously, anytime.
Yeah, I may ask you guys more. I have a good deal of issues and an awful sense of how to resolve them. Borderline personality disorder, woo.
I don't think it's a disorder. I would say it's more of a lack of life experience. It's part of the fun being young.
I'm 33, and pretty content with my life. There are a lotta things I would have done different with the knowledge I have now. No disorder there, just as Rass says.
The fact that you acknowledge you have issues and are seeking help to resolve them in the best possible way is a strength. Try to remember that. If you gave 10.000 people a psych test, quite a lot of them would get a diagnosis, even though they would suffer no problems in there lives not knowing.
You are a human being, not an ailment.
Sorry for ranting there, recovering from bad psychologist who treated me as a moron. AS here.
No, I mean I actually have borderline personality disorder and it often affects my social habits around certain people. Thanks, though.
Quote from: Handsome Jack on May 16, 2015, 07:32:08 PM
No, I mean I actually have borderline personality disorder and it often affects my social habits around certain people. Thanks, though.
I have sociopathic tendencies and have a mild form of paranoid schizophrenia. I would list off my medical ailments but I'll not waste your time as my point is this, you may have a personality disorder, but you're going to be absolutely fine. You're showing maturity some, hell /most/, adults I know don't have.
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Quote from: Handsome Jack on May 16, 2015, 07:32:08 PM
No, I mean I actually have borderline personality disorder and it often affects my social habits around certain people. Thanks, though.
I have sociopathic tendencies and have a mild form of paranoid schizophrenia. I would list off my medical ailments but I'll not waste your time as my point is this, you may have a personality disorder, but you're going to be absolutely fine. You're showing maturity some, hell /most/, adults I know don't have.
If you think or even suspect you're a sociopath, you're not.
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No, I mean I actually have borderline personality disorder and it often affects my social habits around certain people. Thanks, though.
I have sociopathic tendencies and have a mild form of paranoid schizophrenia. I would list off my medical ailments but I'll not waste your time as my point is this, you may have a personality disorder, but you're going to be absolutely fine. You're showing maturity some, hell /most/, adults I know don't have.
If you think or even suspect you're a sociopath, you're not.
It would appear that I have the wrong word. My apologies. I can't find the right one...basically I don't feel some emotions and have a tendency to be apathetic. At the same time I'm very loyal and caring to some people. I also don't experience guilt (I do experience fear of getting caught, two different things). My emotions are a disaster.
Update: now she's not speaking to me. Just .loving. great. Lost a friend today.
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She will be back within a few days. That's how teenaged girls are. You're gonna be fine man... I believe in you.
Thanks for the believe
But yeah she may be. I hope.
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Update: now she's not speaking to me. Just .loving. great. Lost a friend today.
Gotta know when to fold, and when to walk away. File her under "not worth the time," if she's THAT shallow.
Yeah, I'm thinking about it. She never seemed like this before though.
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No, I mean I actually have borderline personality disorder and it often affects my social habits around certain people. Thanks, though.
I have sociopathic tendencies and have a mild form of paranoid schizophrenia. I would list off my medical ailments but I'll not waste your time as my point is this, you may have a personality disorder, but you're going to be absolutely fine. You're showing maturity some, hell /most/, adults I know don't have.
If you think or even suspect you're a sociopath, you're not.
It would appear that I have the wrong word. My apologies. I can't find the right one...basically I don't feel some emotions and have a tendency to be apathetic. At the same time I'm very loyal and caring to some people. I also don't experience guilt (I do experience fear of getting caught, two different things). My emotions are a disaster.
This is exactly me.
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Quote from: Handsome Jack on May 16, 2015, 07:32:08 PM
No, I mean I actually have borderline personality disorder and it often affects my social habits around certain people. Thanks, though.
I have sociopathic tendencies and have a mild form of paranoid schizophrenia. I would list off my medical ailments but I'll not waste your time as my point is this, you may have a personality disorder, but you're going to be absolutely fine. You're showing maturity some, hell /most/, adults I know don't have.
If you think or even suspect you're a sociopath, you're not.
It would appear that I have the wrong word. My apologies. I can't find the right one...basically I don't feel some emotions and have a tendency to be apathetic. At the same time I'm very loyal and caring to some people. I also don't experience guilt (I do experience fear of getting caught, two different things). My emotions are a disaster.
This is exactly me.
Sounds like something in the autistic line of work.
@Jack: I didn't mean to say you not being diagnosed with something, but all the diagnose is, is a way for the docs to understand your mind. You are you, not your diagnosis.
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Quote from: Handsome Jack on May 16, 2015, 07:32:08 PM
No, I mean I actually have borderline personality disorder and it often affects my social habits around certain people. Thanks, though.
I have sociopathic tendencies and have a mild form of paranoid schizophrenia. I would list off my medical ailments but I'll not waste your time as my point is this, you may have a personality disorder, but you're going to be absolutely fine. You're showing maturity some, hell /most/, adults I know don't have.
If you think or even suspect you're a sociopath, you're not.
It would appear that I have the wrong word. My apologies. I can't find the right one...basically I don't feel some emotions and have a tendency to be apathetic. At the same time I'm very loyal and caring to some people. I also don't experience guilt (I do experience fear of getting caught, two different things). My emotions are a disaster.
This is exactly me.
Sounds like something in the autistic line of work.
@Jack: I didn't mean to say you not being diagnosed with something, but all the diagnose is, is a way for the docs to understand your mind. You are you, not your diagnosis.
Im not autistic, mother had me tested 💁🏿
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Quote from: Handsome Jack on May 16, 2015, 07:32:08 PM
No, I mean I actually have borderline personality disorder and it often affects my social habits around certain people. Thanks, though.
I have sociopathic tendencies and have a mild form of paranoid schizophrenia. I would list off my medical ailments but I'll not waste your time as my point is this, you may have a personality disorder, but you're going to be absolutely fine. You're showing maturity some, hell /most/, adults I know don't have.
If you think or even suspect you're a sociopath, you're not.
It would appear that I have the wrong word. My apologies. I can't find the right one...basically I don't feel some emotions and have a tendency to be apathetic. At the same time I'm very loyal and caring to some people. I also don't experience guilt (I do experience fear of getting caught, two different things). My emotions are a disaster.
This is exactly me.
Sounds like something in the autistic line of work.
@Jack: I didn't mean to say you not being diagnosed with something, but all the diagnose is, is a way for the docs to understand your mind. You are you, not your diagnosis.
Im not autistic, mother had me tested 💁🏿
Not saying you are, what I meant to say it makes one think of that, rather then sociopathy.
The fact that your mother even considered testing tells me she thought of that too.
And for good order: I am diagnosed with a problem in the autistic spectrum, so I will never use it as an insult or think you are less because of it.
Allright, that makes sense.
TLDR: back to topic.
I can understand that you feel miserable over losing a friend. 2 options: she comes back, or she wasn't worth the title friend to start with.
Losing friends hurts. Lost loads of "friends" due to mental health issues and then kids' health issues and threat of losing them.. However, looking back, the friends I lost were just in it for themselves. They left because they couldn't leech on me anymore. True friends stick, or just come back a bit later and you can sit as if no time whatsoever has passed.
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Quote from: Handsome Jack on May 16, 2015, 07:32:08 PM
No, I mean I actually have borderline personality disorder and it often affects my social habits around certain people. Thanks, though.
I have sociopathic tendencies and have a mild form of paranoid schizophrenia. I would list off my medical ailments but I'll not waste your time as my point is this, you may have a personality disorder, but you're going to be absolutely fine. You're showing maturity some, hell /most/, adults I know don't have.
If you think or even suspect you're a sociopath, you're not.
It would appear that I have the wrong word. My apologies. I can't find the right one...basically I don't feel some emotions and have a tendency to be apathetic. At the same time I'm very loyal and caring to some people. I also don't experience guilt (I do experience fear of getting caught, two different things). My emotions are a disaster.
This is exactly me.
Sounds like something in the autistic line of work.
@Jack: I didn't mean to say you not being diagnosed with something, but all the diagnose is, is a way for the docs to understand your mind. You are you, not your diagnosis.
Im not autistic, mother had me tested 💁🏿
Not saying you are, what I meant to say it makes one think of that, rather then sociopathy.
The fact that your mother even considered testing tells me she thought of that too.
And for good order: I am diagnosed with a problem in the autistic spectrum, so I will never use it as an insult or think you are less because of it.
The 'I'm not autistic, my mother had me tested' thing is a joke from the Big Bang theory I don't think he was being serious
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Quote from: Handsome Jack on May 16, 2015, 07:32:08 PM
No, I mean I actually have borderline personality disorder and it often affects my social habits around certain people. Thanks, though.
I have sociopathic tendencies and have a mild form of paranoid schizophrenia. I would list off my medical ailments but I'll not waste your time as my point is this, you may have a personality disorder, but you're going to be absolutely fine. You're showing maturity some, hell /most/, adults I know don't have.
If you think or even suspect you're a sociopath, you're not.
It would appear that I have the wrong word. My apologies. I can't find the right one...basically I don't feel some emotions and have a tendency to be apathetic. At the same time I'm very loyal and caring to some people. I also don't experience guilt (I do experience fear of getting caught, two different things). My emotions are a disaster.
This is exactly me.
Sounds like something in the autistic line of work.
@Jack: I didn't mean to say you not being diagnosed with something, but all the diagnose is, is a way for the docs to understand your mind. You are you, not your diagnosis.
Im not autistic, mother had me tested 💁🏿
Not saying you are, what I meant to say it makes one think of that, rather then sociopathy.
The fact that your mother even considered testing tells me she thought of that too.
And for good order: I am diagnosed with a problem in the autistic spectrum, so I will never use it as an insult or think you are less because of it.
The 'I'm not autistic, my mother had me tested' thing is a joke from the Big Bang theory I don't think he was being serious
Ah. Failed my knowledge: pop references check there :)
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No, I mean I actually have borderline personality disorder and it often affects my social habits around certain people. Thanks, though.
I have sociopathic tendencies and have a mild form of paranoid schizophrenia. I would list off my medical ailments but I'll not waste your time as my point is this, you may have a personality disorder, but you're going to be absolutely fine. You're showing maturity some, hell /most/, adults I know don't have.
If you think or even suspect you're a sociopath, you're not.
It would appear that I have the wrong word. My apologies. I can't find the right one...basically I don't feel some emotions and have a tendency to be apathetic. At the same time I'm very loyal and caring to some people. I also don't experience guilt (I do experience fear of getting caught, two different things). My emotions are a disaster.
This is exactly me.
Sounds like something in the autistic line of work.
@Jack: I didn't mean to say you not being diagnosed with something, but all the diagnose is, is a way for the docs to understand your mind. You are you, not your diagnosis.
Im not autistic, mother had me tested 💁🏿
Not saying you are, what I meant to say it makes one think of that, rather then sociopathy.
The fact that your mother even considered testing tells me she thought of that too.
And for good order: I am diagnosed with a problem in the autistic spectrum, so I will never use it as an insult or think you are less because of it.
The 'I'm not autistic, my mother had me tested' thing is a joke from the Big Bang theory I don't think he was being serious
Sheldon says "I'm not crazy, my mother had me tested." But close enough.
Quote from: Kaylesh on May 17, 2015, 08:13:14 AM
TLDR: back to topic.
I can understand that you feel miserable over losing a friend. 2 options: she comes back, or she wasn't worth the title friend to start with.
Losing friends hurts. Lost loads of "friends" due to mental health issues and then kids' health issues and threat of losing them.. However, looking back, the friends I lost were just in it for themselves. They left because they couldn't leech on me anymore. True friends stick, or just come back a bit later and you can sit as if no time whatsoever has passed.
Yeah. I guess that's it. I tell you, you guys are WAY more helpful than reddit.
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Quote from: Kaylesh on May 17, 2015, 08:13:14 AM
TLDR: back to topic.
I can understand that you feel miserable over losing a friend. 2 options: she comes back, or she wasn't worth the title friend to start with.
Losing friends hurts. Lost loads of "friends" due to mental health issues and then kids' health issues and threat of losing them.. However, looking back, the friends I lost were just in it for themselves. They left because they couldn't leech on me anymore. True friends stick, or just come back a bit later and you can sit as if no time whatsoever has passed.
Yeah. I guess that's it. I tell you, you guys are WAY more helpful than reddit.
We have a mutual interest. :)
In the great character of any mindless warrior
A LADY ONCE REJECTED ME!!! I CHALLENGED HER TO A DUEL AND RIPPED OUT HER HEART AND BURNED HER VILLAGE TO THE GROUND!!!
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In the great character of any mindless warrior
A LADY ONCE REJECTED ME!!! I CHALLENGED HER TO A DUEL AND RIPPED OUT HER HEART AND BURNED HER VILLAGE TO THE GROUND!!!
"Before you are hanged for your crimes, do you have anything to say about the murder of those women?"
"It was fun?"
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Quote from: Munchlax on May 17, 2015, 10:00:59 PM
In the great character of any mindless warrior
A LADY ONCE REJECTED ME!!! I CHALLENGED HER TO A DUEL AND RIPPED OUT HER HEART AND BURNED HER VILLAGE TO THE GROUND!!!
"Before you are hanged for your crimes, do you have anything to say about the murder of those women?"
"It was fun?"
'Twas but a jest my good man. All in the name of Fun I might add
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Quote from: Munchlax on May 17, 2015, 10:00:59 PM
In the great character of any mindless warrior
A LADY ONCE REJECTED ME!!! I CHALLENGED HER TO A DUEL AND RIPPED OUT HER HEART AND BURNED HER VILLAGE TO THE GROUND!!!
"Before you are hanged for your crimes, do you have anything to say about the murder of those women?"
"It was fun?"
"Stop right there, criminal scum!"
Wait... I recognize you.
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Quote from: Munchlax on May 17, 2015, 10:00:59 PM
In the great character of any mindless warrior
A LADY ONCE REJECTED ME!!! I CHALLENGED HER TO A DUEL AND RIPPED OUT HER HEART AND BURNED HER VILLAGE TO THE GROUND!!!
"Before you are hanged for your crimes, do you have anything to say about the murder of those women?"
"It was fun?"
'Twas but a jest my good man. All in the name of Fun I might add
Haha that was a Borderlands 2 misquote. Love that game.
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Quote from: Munchlax on May 17, 2015, 10:00:59 PM
In the great character of any mindless warrior
A LADY ONCE REJECTED ME!!! I CHALLENGED HER TO A DUEL AND RIPPED OUT HER HEART AND BURNED HER VILLAGE TO THE GROUND!!!
"Before you are hanged for your crimes, do you have anything to say about the murder of those women?"
"It was fun?"
"Stop right there, criminal scum!"
Wait... I recognize you.
"I'm with the Guild."
I guess we can overlook your crimes for now.
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Quote from: Munchlax on May 17, 2015, 10:00:59 PM
In the great character of any mindless warrior
A LADY ONCE REJECTED ME!!! I CHALLENGED HER TO A DUEL AND RIPPED OUT HER HEART AND BURNED HER VILLAGE TO THE GROUND!!!
"Before you are hanged for your crimes, do you have anything to say about the murder of those women?"
"It was fun?"
"Stop right there, criminal scum!"
Wait... I recognize you.
"I'm with the Guild."
I guess we can overlook your crimes for now.
...omfg. The memories.