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Title: Relationship
Post by: Codester1991 on March 16, 2015, 01:26:07 AM
Worked it out, we good 👍
Title: Re: Relationship
Post by: MuggyWuggy on March 16, 2015, 01:27:29 AM
I mean how long have you been dating for?
Title: Re: Relationship
Post by: Remillo on March 16, 2015, 01:53:01 AM
The things you should ask are these: Are both you and your partner clear on the fact that one or both of you want it to be a long-term, serious thing (basically, can you see yourself living with and potentially marrying)?  Are you willing to put the time and effort in to make things work if both of you want it to be long-term?  Have you sat down and had a discussion with her that you think there's a problem?

It really just boils down to how serious you two are about it and if you're both on the same page.  I don't know what your situations are, so I'll leave it at that for now, but give it some thought.
Title: Re: Relationship
Post by: Cender on March 16, 2015, 09:32:48 AM
Quote from: Remillo on March 16, 2015, 01:53:01 AM
The things you should ask are these: Are both you and your partner clear on the fact that one or both of you want it to be a long-term, serious thing (basically, can you see yourself living with and potentially marrying)?  Are you willing to put the time and effort in to make things work if both of you want it to be long-term?  Have you sat down and had a discussion with her that you think there's a problem?

It really just boils down to how serious you two are about it and if you're both on the same page.  I don't know what your situations are, so I'll leave it at that for now, but give it some thought.

This. Serious relationships require these questions be asked. If you're just in the relationship to have fun, then it's a simple question of whether the fun exceeds the crazy.

Then again I've lived by the saying "don't put your - in crazy." :P
Title: Re: Relationship
Post by: the_intelligentleman on March 16, 2015, 01:02:08 PM
Lol I love this. "Ask IMTG about relationships."

Also, do what's best for you.
Title: Re: Relationship
Post by: Dsx Cherno on March 16, 2015, 06:41:30 PM
Understand that this could be a process that takes years for her to calm down, and for you to become used to her needy attitude. And that's assuming that both of you are willing to work at it. Sit down with her, explain how you feel. Do it calmly. Even if she becomes mad, sad, hurt, violent, whatever. You need to be calm and understanding of her place. Becoming defensive or reactive will stifle any possible chance of thins getting better.

Whether you decide to work on it or leave it, this convo needs to happen. You have to earn your way out of the relationship. If you are leaving her over this, you need to be upfront and honest. She's gonna cry. Be a man and take ur emotional lumps. She at least deserves a full explanation and a chance to respond.
Title: Re: Relationship
Post by: LinkCelestrial on March 16, 2015, 06:44:32 PM
This does not sound like a healthy relationship. Listen to the others with the advice they're giving about talking, but she just doesn't sound like relationship material. Don't get it into your head that you can fix her. That is the makings of a tragedy. That doesn't mean give up it means be prepared.

Can you deal with this for the rest of your life?