besides not having pax tickets, which isn't so bad by itself, I found that all my friends planned together to go and didn't think to invite me. That hurts more than not going at all does.
I don't know why I'm complaining to you guys, just ignore me. I shouldn't bother everyone else by feeling sorry for myself. Especially not random people online.
Did they keep it a secret from you purposely? Or did they have a reason to not invite you?
Ether way, that sucks bro 😕
I can't tell. I think one person contacted the rest of the group except me, for some reason. It would be too awkward to just ask him why I think.
I totally feel you. I've say in a room full of people to watch every guy get invited to go out for pie. Except me. Even though I had expressed interest in going earlier. And it's not like this sort of thing has been a one time thing. It's not something anybody should get used to but Ive had really bad excuses for friends so I am used to it. (Don't even get me started on canceled plans...)
Maybe you should distance yourself from this group. At least emotionally. Hurts less that way.
There are better friends out there and everything is much better if you're directly involved in making plans. I do recommend that you bring it up. The best opportunity is when they're talking about pax.
They all claim to have told me about these specific plans but all I remember is them mentioning pax in general once or twice. I'm trying to figure out where the disconnect was and if this was intentional or not but when people have different versions of the facts things get difficult.
Anyway, sadly I've gotten used to this to so it isn't so bad anymore except when it is a group that I felt so close with.
Quote from: E.kann1 on March 05, 2015, 04:44:48 PM
They all claim to have told me about these specific plans but all I remember is them mentioning pax in general once or twice. I'm trying to figure out where the disconnect was and if this was intentional or not but when people have different versions of the facts things get difficult.
Anyway, sadly I've gotten used to this to so it isn't so bad anymore except when it is a group that I felt so close with.
So they're saying it's miscommunication. I don't understand how it happens to that level but you, me and God know it does...
"The more you hope, the more it burns."
- Somebody in Extreme Days.
Not a very uplifting quote but it's all I've got.
Tears into Wine by Billy Talent is the song that goes with this sort if thing. Don't know if you'll enjoy it or it'll be helpful but it's there.
There's no way I told them that I couldn't go which is what they claim. Oh well. whatever. I should get over it. Thanks for the advice, sorry to bother you...
Quote from: E.kann1 on March 05, 2015, 05:05:36 PM
There's no way I told them that I couldn't go which is what they claim. Oh well. whatever. I should get over it. Thanks for the advice, sorry to bother you...
I'm always willing to listen and offer my two cents. No bother at all.
Quote from: E.kann1 on March 05, 2015, 05:05:36 PM
There's no way I told them that I couldn't go which is what they claim. Oh well. whatever. I should get over it. Thanks for the advice, sorry to bother you...
My advise, do you have anyone in the group that you are better friends with? Like you know without doubt is a solid friend? If so bring it up to them, not accusing, just simply, hey did someone not want me to go? Are there issues with me in the circle? If there are issues you then ask yourself, can this be fixed? If it cannot, move on. If it can, work it. Either way, friends come and go in life, they always will. Don't be afraid to move on. Just make sure that it wasn't a misunderstanding and don't be butt hurt if it was. That really sucks if you missed out over something stupid.
I've actually been doing that, there is someone like that, and I'm trying to figure out what really happened.
I've been in this exact situation many times before. Best thing to do, (in my opinion), is to voice that you are pissed, and just straight out ask, "Why was I not invited?" If someone seems to have a problem with you, demand they talk it out with you, instead of keeping it underneath their skin. It's the only way to solve lurking issues.
Now that I thought about it and calmed down some, I feel a bit better. Right at the moment was when it was the worst, if I had waited a bit I might not have even posted. Anyway.
Intelligentleman: I'm a very under my skin kind of person :P . I would like to stay friends with these people so I'm trying to do that but in a not so accusatory way.