my life keeps getting harder and harder.
Everyone expects so much from me.
Form my parents its my grades. From my coaches, to practice all my sports every day.
my teachers, to get 100's
my girlfriend, to spend more time with her
my friends to do the stuff that they invite me to do (ie. paintball, mavs games ect.)
form extra circular activities to practice them every day
all of this is on my back, and i cant get enough sleep these last few weeks i got maybe 5 hours a night
and then there are my personal goals, which for some reason always go behind everything else, im so so stressed, i'v never even considered going to a councilor, but now im seriously considering it.
i can't get my life straight, my life's great but im just too busy... the last time a played a full game of magic was a week ago... seriously... do you guys have any suggestions on what to do?
Sounds completely normal for life
I didn't get a chance to play magic at a store until last night since the GPLA, but you gotta remember, life is NOT about one thing. You gotta balance more and more as you get older.
I act, produce, sell machines, network people together, and also am micro managing for another persons business. It's busy, sometimes I just want to lay in bed, but then I remember what I get to do for a living and remember to love each moment of it.
Find what you love to do and everything will lose its weight in due time.
If you really got the feeling you are into too much, make selections. You can't go on like this with too little sleep. At some point you will collapse. So I advise to make a list of things and start looking at what you might scrap. As for Magic, with four kids under 5 yo with medical problems, I haven't even had that much time for Metagaming the last weeks. It happens.
I have all of the exact same problems.
I also get about 5 hours of sleep every night.
I've been doing this for over a quarter of the year now, but I don't really feel too stressed.
I do the best I can, as that's all I can do.
Perhaps if you actually make a list, or sort out your priorities of what is most to least important, you'll feel better about it.
The load of work and stress on you right now is pretty standard from the description you gave, it would just likely be easier if you had a general plan of what to do first and what to do last.
And remember this: You cannot please everyone.
Just give your best, that's all anyone can ask of you.
Seek counselling if you feel you need it too, and perhaps a long vacation.
(PS. if you have to go with few hours of sleep generally, take naps or sleep in during your free time!)
Cut the things you don't care for! Living your life stressed out sucks, but you can make it easier on yourself. School sucks and there's no way around that. I've been on an emotional incline since graduation two years ago haha. Life is so much more fun once you're out of school. You kinda have to just roll with it until your done, honestly. To be brutally honest, I don't think anyone ever really gets a full eight hours of sleep. I generally shoot for six or so. I did that all through high school and still do it. You get used to it! If you're in a position like me where your friends move away and your LGS is forever away, then playing Magic could be an issue for you haha. I haven't played a game of paper Magic since last July....
Haha, I haven't played paper magic since last February or so.
You lost of priorities right now is as follows:
1. Grades
2. Grades
3. Grades
4. Work (if applicable, if not see 5)
5. Girlfriend/friends (this MUST be equal, the bulk majority of this is temporary, yes, this includes the gf).
6. Grades
7. Grades
8. Magic*
9. Grades
10. Magic*
*could be associated with #5 depending on the activity choices chosen to be performed with the friends and/or girlfriend.
Summery, your young, don't stress about sheet, make sure your grades are as good as you can do, then have some fun. Some of the best times of my life are with high school friends before I had a "girlfriend". Just relax bro, enjoy life before you have to work 60 hours a week to support your family.
Also, while magic is a great game, it does not absolutely need to be high on the priority list. I draft once every ~2 weeks and then listen to a bunch of podcasts and stuff, and that's fine. Everyone is different so I don't know how that would work for you, but I'm responding to the "one week since I've played magic" thing.
thanks so much fro all of the advise, and i am trying to make a priority list.
How about this.
I don't get stressed most of the time because I think in the present. I do not think about what I just did (with the exception of various games) because I can never take that back. I accept that. Trust me. It alleviates stress for me and it might for you. I'm not sure
I've experienced and am experiencing similar things. I just got pushed to the breaking point and decided I didn't care. That went horribly. My advice to you is to prioritize and drop some things.
I personally need to take a day or two every once in a while to just do nothing so I don't get overwhelmed and just snap into not doing anything (or worse, exploding emotionally). You /can/ miss days of practice. If your coach can't accept that they can suck it up, it's your life not theirs. If they kick you from the team then that just frees up your schedule. (You might care about your sports my than I do, in which case you still don't have to practice /every single day/ you can miss one or two a week, it won't kill you.)
The reality is that people just pile things up and they don't notice what's happening until you screw up. Then you get crap for it. Don't take that, it'll break you like it broke me. Prioritize, learn to say no. Your life will be better for it. I highly suggest setting aside a day to just do what you want, just remember to get back to reality after.
Also, I highly suggest you put your parents interests high up there. They're the people that can make your life the worst.
Just a thought, how old are you? Do you /need/ a girlfriend? I mean it's sounding like more harm than good atm.
As usual I'm throwing around scattered thoughts. Hope they were at least somewhat helpful.
Quote from: LinkCelestrial on November 21, 2014, 02:15:36 AM
I've experienced and am experiencing similar things. I just got pushed to the breaking point and decided I didn't care. That went horribly. My advice to you is to prioritize and drop some things.
I personally need to take a day or two every once in a while to just do nothing so I don't get overwhelmed and just snap into not doing anything (or worse, exploding emotionally). You /can/ miss days of practice. If your coach can't accept that they can suck it up, it's your life not theirs. If they kick you from the team then that just frees up your schedule. (You might care about your sports my than I do, in which case you still don't have to practice /every single day/ you can miss one or two a week, it won't kill you.)
The reality is that people just pile things up and they don't notice what's happening until you screw up. Then you get crap for it. Don't take that, it'll break you like it broke me. Prioritize, learn to say no. Your life will be better for it. I highly suggest setting aside a day to just do what you want, just remember to get back to reality after.
Also, I highly suggest you put your parents interests high up there. They're the people that can make your life the worst.
Just a thought, how old are you? Do you /need/ a girlfriend? I mean it's sounding like more harm than good atm.
As usual I'm throwing around scattered thoughts. Hope they were at least somewhat helpful.
your right, why do i need a girlfriend im in 8th grade, and its not like i love her anyways. i think breaking up with her will be better for me.
Quote from: Rothsteine on November 22, 2014, 11:34:40 AM
Quote from: LinkCelestrial on November 21, 2014, 02:15:36 AM
I've experienced and am experiencing similar things. I just got pushed to the breaking point and decided I didn't care. That went horribly. My advice to you is to prioritize and drop some things.
I personally need to take a day or two every once in a while to just do nothing so I don't get overwhelmed and just snap into not doing anything (or worse, exploding emotionally). You /can/ miss days of practice. If your coach can't accept that they can suck it up, it's your life not theirs. If they kick you from the team then that just frees up your schedule. (You might care about your sports my than I do, in which case you still don't have to practice /every single day/ you can miss one or two a week, it won't kill you.)
The reality is that people just pile things up and they don't notice what's happening until you screw up. Then you get crap for it. Don't take that, it'll break you like it broke me. Prioritize, learn to say no. Your life will be better for it. I highly suggest setting aside a day to just do what you want, just remember to get back to reality after.
Also, I highly suggest you put your parents interests high up there. They're the people that can make your life the worst.
Just a thought, how old are you? Do you /need/ a girlfriend? I mean it's sounding like more harm than good atm.
As usual I'm throwing around scattered thoughts. Hope they were at least somewhat helpful.
your right, why do i need a girlfriend im in 8th grade, and its not like i love her anyways. i think breaking up with her will be better for me.
Do be nice and gentle about it.
Quote from: LinkCelestrial on November 24, 2014, 01:03:43 PM
Quote from: Rothsteine on November 22, 2014, 11:34:40 AM
Quote from: LinkCelestrial on November 21, 2014, 02:15:36 AM
I've experienced and am experiencing similar things. I just got pushed to the breaking point and decided I didn't care. That went horribly. My advice to you is to prioritize and drop some things.
I personally need to take a day or two every once in a while to just do nothing so I don't get overwhelmed and just snap into not doing anything (or worse, exploding emotionally). You /can/ miss days of practice. If your coach can't accept that they can suck it up, it's your life not theirs. If they kick you from the team then that just frees up your schedule. (You might care about your sports my than I do, in which case you still don't have to practice /every single day/ you can miss one or two a week, it won't kill you.)
The reality is that people just pile things up and they don't notice what's happening until you screw up. Then you get crap for it. Don't take that, it'll break you like it broke me. Prioritize, learn to say no. Your life will be better for it. I highly suggest setting aside a day to just do what you want, just remember to get back to reality after.
Also, I highly suggest you put your parents interests high up there. They're the people that can make your life the worst.
Just a thought, how old are you? Do you /need/ a girlfriend? I mean it's sounding like more harm than good atm.
As usual I'm throwing around scattered thoughts. Hope they were at least somewhat helpful.
your right, why do i need a girlfriend im in 8th grade, and its not like i love her anyways. i think breaking up with her will be better for me.
Do be nice and gentle about it.
👆yea, ease into it. Because if you just go out and say "I'm breaking up with you" that will be adding to their stress. 😉
Let her know you juggle a lot of things and your friendship/relationship expectations won't get fulfilled. Stay close though, never know how she'll turn out in a few years 😻😻😻
Quote from: Rothsteine on November 22, 2014, 11:34:40 AM
your right, why do i need a girlfriend im in 8th grade, and its not like i love her anyways. i think breaking up with her will be better for me.
Is sarcasm? Is not sarcasm?
Quote from: Silent1236 on November 24, 2014, 02:46:58 PM
Quote from: Rothsteine on November 22, 2014, 11:34:40 AM
your right, why do i need a girlfriend im in 8th grade, and its not like i love her anyways. i think breaking up with her will be better for me.
Is sarcasm? Is not sarcasm?
a bit of both