So I recently caught up with an old friend who I kind of liked. We had been together for six school years then she moved away. I only got her number a while back ago, we had been chatting it up for a year and a half now and then, something happened. She said something, I got mad, you know how this goes. in the end, I said something I didn't mea to say. Now I want to apologize, but she ignores me because of what I said to her. I know she feels hurt, I try to make contact but she denies me access. I ask my friends to update me on her status every day. I even asked my best friend to promise me he would keep her safe.
I JUST CAN'T FORGET ABOUT HER. PLEASE HELP ME!
Should I mention that this has been going on for six months now?
You just need a rebound.
Once you separate from someone you were very close to, someone so close that they were apart of your daily routine, life is a little out of touch... So you need to fill that with something new. A personal task, that way you're not sitting around wondering what that person is doing.
Then you rebound and remember there are millions of potentials in the universe that will align as closely as the last and then some who align with your true self even more.
Tldr: focus on you
Don't send her a text. Call her. And if she doesn't pick up after several attempts then send a text. But a text doesn't show any remorse. A text doesn't show any feeling. If anything it just makes the person think you're shallow. Talk to her. That's what I would want
Call some more >:D
I did the same thing and guess what.. It took 2 months before she talke to me again, and it was never the same. I missed my chance to be with a girl i truly enjoyed spending my time with, because a made a huge mistake. Its life man, if its bad enough that she is ignoring you hard, first of all GIVE HER TIME DAMNIT, and accept the fact that it may never be the same. Move on, get over it, accept life. Nobody is worth torturing yourself over, i sometimes regret that day still but its not worth it, youll find something better. Extend a heartfelt apology then just drop it, what happens will happen. Like i said i did the samething to a girl i loved, nothin you can do besides go back in time.
Just keep trying, you'll get through eventually
(Personal experience)
Dude seriously, do NOT keep bugging her i PROMISE you you have to give her some space.. Maybe occassionally try again but do not continuously try, give her lots of space.. Im speaking from very personal experience that changed the course of my life forever, and im not even exaggerating. This is somethig that is really close to my heart, you need to be sincere, apologetic, but also understanding. Therefore, let her decide when to reconnect, although every once in awhile itd be alright to try yourself and see if she responds
Guys I think the answer to this question will vary from person to person
Well i can certainly speak from very personal experience here, direct experience that im doubtful everyones had, which is why i feel slightly qualified in giving advice
Quote from: MisterJH on March 31, 2014, 03:24:48 PM
direct experience that im doubtful everyones had
You don't know what any of us have been through
Did i say otherwise? Nope, dont believe so, i said im doubtful. Mostly because its a very specific experience, and one thats most people never should experience. You are not 'supposed' to drive away people you care about with harsh words, even if you do not mean to, its not something id consider 'standard' or 'normal.' Read my post very carefully and youll realize that you responded to something i never said. I made an assumption that i feel is PROBABLY a fair assumption to make. Carry on.