My girlfriend is Thai, and we have been dating for almost 2 years, we are both 15 almost 16, and her parents have not known about her and I. The reason we have not told her parents is because they don't want her dating until she graduates college... Well this weekend they found out, they do NOT like me at all, mainly because they have caught me sneaking out of Linda [my girlfriends] window several times.... What I'm getting at is this; Has anyone had an expirence like this and how do I fix this? I know it's my fault but I really like her, and I want her family to like me too.
Go to the parents and look them in the face and say "I love your daughter" ( honestly I don't know what I'm talking about but my friend had this problem and he said this and they love him now)
Not to offered anyone but they are Asian parents...
Buy them some rice
I feel really awkward ahaha
Well, I wish I could offer up better advice than previous answers, but I get the feeling All Mana may have the right idea. Try talking to her parents. Or if you haven't really talked to her parents before, talk to her first to see what her parents are like. Its a bit of a sticky situation, but very few things are impossible :) Killing her and buying her parents rice will probably accomplish nothing ;)
Quote from: Silent1236 on February 10, 2013, 09:29:01 PM
Well, I wish I could offer up better advice than previous answers, but I get the feeling All Mana may have the right idea. Killing her and buying her parents rice will probably accomplish nothing ;)
Ahaha " here's some rice and... I killed your daughter" that is not a good plan
Not both -.- just buy them rice
Yea buy them rice and tell em " I love your daughter and I want to date her"
They'll probably get offended and think youre racist if you get them rice. My suggestion is to research Thai culture to see what might he a good idea.
Might be careful what you say. That could be considered racist/stereotyping, and it is Missingkirby's girlfriend and said girlfriend's family we're talking about ;)
They have 5 20 pound bags of rice in the basement..so rice wouldn't work and killing her is out, maybe her parents though... Jk... I'm kinda stuck on this one, her parents don't speak fluent English either, which makes things harder...I was thinking of buying her parents some flowers or something nice, and then letting them get to know me better, oh and it always seems like they are glaring at me -_-👲
Quote from: izik99 on February 10, 2013, 09:44:58 PM
They'll probably get offended and think youre racist if you get them rice. My suggestion is to research Thai culture to see what might he a good idea.
Im 99% sure those werent serious suggestions...
Simply try to talk to her parents, with or without gf in the room, with her helps with support, plus it's their daughter, without her lets them see that you're serious about her and want their approval, either they eventually warm up to you or you're in the same boat as every married man, pissed off in laws.
How about making an effort to learn Thai? I mean it will both show the parents you care about their daughter and that you are taking the relationship seriously. Also it will help you communicate with the parents and help break down the barriers the may have up against outsiders (you).
Or get a spray on tan
I second Wally's advice. Write down what you want to say and have your gf teach you as best you can, have her there with you and even if you butcher it I'm willing to bet they'd love the effort
Potticus.. <3
No homo but i just laughed my ass off
Can we keep the racial stereotyping off the forum please? Thanks.
Quote from: Potticus on February 11, 2013, 12:39:41 AM
Quote from: MisterJH on February 10, 2013, 11:34:33 PM
Potticus.. <3
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In all seriousness you shot yourself in the foot messing around and getting caught going out her window. And 2 years? Jesus Christ. Now you've decided to act?
Her parents found out on Saturday, I never really saw them much, and we didn't ever talk about them, they are super strict and I've been extremely nice to them, I realized I shot my self in the foot, but I want to try
All of these seem like really, really good suggestions. But as a married man... GET OUT NOW!
Quote from: Wally on February 10, 2013, 10:57:28 PM
How about making an effort to learn Thai? I mean it will both show the parents you care about their daughter and that you are taking the relationship seriously. Also it will help you communicate with the parents and help break down the barriers the may have up against outsiders (you).
hahaha! Already saw this on karate kid 3! Lol! And they all got a happily ever after ending. Kidding aside this is a good advice. Do that the parents will see that you respect and appreciate their culture and their little baby.
Ei, I'm from asia too and most Asian parents are conservative and strict when it comes to their little girl having a love life. Lol!
My advice to you is not rice, but you need to man up and prove to them that you really love Linda. Try talking to them and this time go to the front door and not through the window. There's nothing a good conversation can fix. (this is like the ending part of the hangover 2 ) lol!
Quote from: prayos on February 11, 2013, 03:14:59 PM
All of these seem like really, really good suggestions. But as a married man... GET OUT NOW!
Made me lol :D
Quote from: Revils on February 12, 2013, 05:27:52 AM
Quote from: Wally on February 10, 2013, 10:57:28 PM
How about making an effort to learn Thai? I mean it will both show the parents you care about their daughter and that you are taking the relationship seriously. Also it will help you communicate with the parents and help break down the barriers the may have up against outsiders (you).
hahaha! Already saw this on karate kid 3! Lol! And they all got a happily ever after ending. Kidding aside this is a good advice. Do that the parents will see that you respect and appreciate their culture and their little baby.
Actually, if you want to go by numbers, that was Karate Kid 5.
Back on topic, if she really means that much to you and you to her, the parents will see this if you talk to them. Be respectful. Polite. And shower before hand. They won't like a stinky kid.
I thought this was a magic forum not an advice column
Quote from: Malachiracer on February 12, 2013, 01:45:26 PM
I thought this was a magic forum not an advice column
Don't be a Richard.
I back most of the advice on here, man. Just talk to her parents. Yeah it may take them a while to learn to like you considering you started off on a bad foot with em, but it isn't impossible. My in-laws werent fond of me when I first started dating my wife years ago, and now they love me.
Lol. You're 15. Get over it.
Quote from: SpaceCanoe on February 12, 2013, 06:52:20 PM
Lol. You're 15. Get over it.
It's been almost 2 years, she was my first, if you knew our history you would understand. Go be a .butt. somewhere else
Look just be a man and tell her parents to go f themselves. Maybe not literally but they can't actually do anything to stop you from seeing eachother. Would they move just because of you? most likely, no! So you cant see her at her place anymore? Big deal! Lots of other places to be.
No. If you are serious about this relationship as a long term thing (possibly a lifetime?) then you gotta pull out all the stops. Make a commitment about the relationship, fight for it. But most of all be mature about it. Do your part to mend your incorrect ways (in her parents eyes), show them that you are serious about their daughter.
They obviously care about her, show them that you do too.
Also, you will need to have a serious talk with your girlfriend. If she is actually serious about the relationship or if she's just in it for a fun time at this part of her life. Commitment can be a daunting thing.
Of course, if this is all too much for you, and you really don't wanna make that kind of commitment (or at least just yet) then you may need to call timeout a bit and see how the dust settles.
Quote from: Missingkirby34 on February 10, 2013, 10:16:14 PM
They have 5 20 pound bags of rice in the basement..so rice wouldn't work and killing her is out, maybe her parents though... Jk... I'm kinda stuck on this one, her parents don't speak fluent English either, which makes things harder...I was thinking of buying her parents some flowers or something nice, and then letting them get to know me better, oh and it always seems like they are glaring at me -_-👲
get your girlfriend to talk about her parents. Lead the conversation subtly to find out what gift they might enjoy. Buy said gift, and give it to them
Also, whoever said learn Thai. I think that's a better suggestion than what I suggested
Revils's advice was better too
Quote from: Jock75 on February 12, 2013, 09:20:42 PM
Quote from: Missingkirby34 on February 12, 2013, 07:25:44 PM
Quote from: SpaceCanoe on February 12, 2013, 06:52:20 PM
Lol. You're 15. Get over it.
It's been almost 2 years, she was my first, if you knew our history you would understand. Go be a .butt. somewhere else
Really? Get over it. I'm 16 and guess what, You can live with out a girl friend
Why don't we try keeping it friendly? He is asking for help, not for people to tell him to just cut ties on a 2 year relationship. Yes, it is possible to live without a girlfriend, but that isn't what he's asking.
Quote from: Jock75 on February 12, 2013, 09:20:42 PM
Quote from: Missingkirby34 on February 12, 2013, 07:25:44 PM
Quote from: SpaceCanoe on February 12, 2013, 06:52:20 PM
Lol. You're 15. Get over it.
It's been almost 2 years, she was my first, if you knew our history you would understand. Go be a .butt. somewhere else
Really? Get over it. I'm 16 and guess what, You can live with out a girl friend
Maybe if you don't have anything nice to say you should not say anything at all. Being rude isn't going to get you very far on this forum.
Impregnate her
Quote from: Moneekahh on February 12, 2013, 11:03:16 PM
Quote from: Jock75 on February 12, 2013, 09:20:42 PM
Quote from: Missingkirby34 on February 12, 2013, 07:25:44 PM
Quote from: SpaceCanoe on February 12, 2013, 06:52:20 PM
Lol. You're 15. Get over it.
It's been almost 2 years, she was my first, if you knew our history you would understand. Go be a .butt. somewhere else
Really? Get over it. I'm 16 and guess what, You can live with out a girl friend
Maybe if you don't have anything nice to say you should not say anything at all. Being rude isn't going to get you very far on this forum.
Thank you(:
Mail her back to Asia????? Shouldn't that work because you got her in the mail.
Here's some advice coming from a father of a little girl. If you really want to keep seeing their daughter you are in for long painful journey. If a boy broke my trust by getting caught sneaking out of my house he would be lucky to be unharmed, and seeing her again would be out of the question. Your best bet is honesty. Go to the house and ask to speak with them. Do not bring a gift because you will look like a kiss ass. Be honest. If they even think you are lying you will never get out of the hole you are already in. It might not be comfortable to be absolutely truthful, but in the end you might get a little respect out of it. Don't be smug, a smarta$$, or act like a spaz. Nervous is ok. It means you have a little fear. If I had a kid come up all cocky after getting caught sneaking out of my house he definitely wouldnt leave unscathed a second time. My last piece of advice is whatever the outcome is respect their wishes. If they say you can't see their daughter you two should probably take a little break. After a few month approach them again and tell them that you have respected their wishes, but you still love their daughter and would like the chance to see her again. Hopefully this will work for you.
Quote from: Raiderrob on February 13, 2013, 12:33:25 AM
Here's some advice coming from a father of a little girl. If you really want to keep seeing their daughter you are in for long painful journey. If a boy broke my trust by getting caught sneaking out of my house he would be lucky to be unharmed, and seeing her again would be out of the question. Your best bet is honesty. Go to the house and ask to speak with them. Do not bring a gift because you will look like a kiss ass. Be honest. If they even think you are lying you will never get out of the hole you are already in. It might not be comfortable to be absolutely truthful, but in the end you might get a little respect out of it. Don't be smug, a smarta$$, or act like a spaz. Nervous is ok. It means you have a little fear. If I had a kid come up all cocky after getting caught sneaking out of my house he definitely wouldnt leave unscathed a second time. My last piece of advice is whatever the outcome is respect their wishes. If they say you can't see their daughter you two should probably take a little break. After a few month approach them again and tell them that you have respected their wishes, but you still love their daughter and would like the chance to see her again. Hopefully this will work for you.
Wow, thank you soooooo much! I will try this!!!!
No problem. Good luck.
You're a smart guy Raiderrob. +1
Try helping them out in the house, so that they'll see that you are sacrificing a lot just for their approval. Go paint the the fence or something. Hehehe
Quote from: Revils on February 13, 2013, 05:41:10 AM
Try helping them out in the house, so that they'll see that you are sacrificing a lot just for their approval. Go paint the the fence or something. Hehehe
Are they the Miyagi's? :o
Just keep dating her and don't sneak around their house. It's pretty simple.
Throw in all these other factors and you'll complicate your love life even more. You like bangbang so much? "She was my first", well sell your magic cards, get a job and have a place to support her or bang at your parents home.
Her parents will always disapprove, it's Asian culture. Hell my mom didnt want me to date in high school and I'm a guy. She has to show growth around her parents too. You can't convince them that she is mature enough.
Quote from: Silent1236 on February 13, 2013, 11:39:57 AM
Quote from: Revils on February 13, 2013, 05:41:10 AM
Try helping them out in the house, so that they'll see that you are sacrificing a lot just for their approval. Go paint the the fence or something. Hehehe
Are they the Miyagi's? :o
. Believe it or not I'm from Asia and that's how it rolls around here especially during way back , the parents will ask you to chop firewood and fetch buckets of water from afar. Hahaha classic! But now that we have stoves and showers we can still help out with other ways..
this thread is killing me
Quote from: Halifaxmtg on February 23, 2013, 11:00:16 PM
this thread is killing me
then call the police
You know I'm joking right?