In general, I've never really had any trouble with girls in any sort of social situation; I've got enough charisma on my side to handle that. There has, however, always been the fact that I am a complete closet nerd. Thus said, I've never had the heart to tell a girl about my nerdy habits that I have outside of public life. It's scary... haha.
Now, my fantasies include a beautiful girlfriend who will also play mtg with me (and enjoy it). Any of you lucky dogs living out my dreams? I hope so, because I'd like to know how you converted her to the magic-playing dame you know and love. How did you present it to her? Perhaps you played in front of her? I have no idea. Share your knowledge, brothers.
My girlfriend actually got me into magic. She plays casually and I'm into it super hard now haha, guess I just got lucky
The best why I have found is inviting them to fnm so they can see yes there are nerds there but a majority of magic players arent nerds at all.
Also, some women actually like nerds. I remember from an episode of smallville, Lois saying "give me a nerd with glasses any day of the week." that's kind of the mentality lately with attractiveness. Mainly it's the intelegence. So, show off your intelligence without being too in your face about it. And bring up things you know without being to "na na na na boo boo" about it
Quote from: KangaRod on February 05, 2013, 06:06:18 AM
IMHO find a girlfriend, love her and cherish her....
Keep her separate from magic. Everyone needs a thing that is kind of their thing... You know?
It seems like it might be cool, but so is having an excuse to get away from them for 3 or 4 hours once a week
Sounds like you are speaking from experience. To me it is a hobby that I can afford to have right now. My wife jokes about it but she also jokes about me working out soo...I guess what I am saying is that its not a big deal. You can keep it seperate from some friends and some you can share it with.
My best mate's girlfriend plays magic,
Mine hates it
The wife could care less about magic. At the Gatecrash prerelease a 1/4 of the competitors were female and 2/4 in the final. My first round opponent had his gf lingering, chatting mid game about everything. Drove me crazy!
I started to play because I saw my boyfriend having fun and socializing around magic, which was more fun then watching him play video games most days :p now me and another couple play together alot
Quote from: KangaRod on February 05, 2013, 06:06:18 AM
IMHO find a girlfriend, love her and cherish her....
Keep her separate from magic. Everyone needs a thing that is kind of their thing... You know?
It seems like it might be cool, but so is having an excuse to get away from them for 3 or 4 hours once a week
You know, I see your point, right down to the tip... I guess that's true. Nonetheless! There are other ways to get that.
I guess my issue is that where I live there are little to no nerdy/intelligent girls. Most are your typical high school sluts n rich girls. I talk to a plethora of females and have yet to know one who does anything of the sort. Guess it's just bad luck...
Don't mix your hobbies and love life. It's really not that important. Every girlfriend Ive had knows I play magic, they don't ask me to teach them, and I don't offer.
It's much, much simpler that way.
Quote from: Dudecore on February 05, 2013, 07:59:36 AM
Don't mix your hobbies and love life. It's really not that important. Every girlfriend Ive had knows I play magic, they don't ask me to teach them, and I don't offer.
It's much, much simpler that way.
This put a weird image in my head...
If youre looking for a girlfriend then dont bother making any deal out of it. If youre looking for someone you can actually spend any major portion if not all of your life with then they need to respect (not necessarily agree with) you on all aspects of your life and you theirs. Nicki is great and has mixxed feelings about magic, but she knows that it is contained to 6pm-1am every friday and two weeks every quarter for the new sets. Sure I play outside of that, but never if it conflicts with her in any way. I have "my time" which she is welcome to be a part of if she chooses and if she is actually feeling up to it (which is about once a month). Setting such boundries is key, it makes a woman feel she has an accountable man and it gives the man "his time" that cant be complained about because she isnt getting blindsided by anything. That is what I have found for a successful and loving long term relationship courtesy of some friends and business parters of ours who have set a great example.
I taught my gf how to play. She picked it up sooo quickly. She now schools me on a daily basis. Gonna have to marry this one...
I disagree with some points here, but see them respectfully. I'm looking for that girl who is not only a significant other but a best friend. I had it once but it slipped away. it's not a super high priority on my mind right now, since I've just recently left a relationship. I've just never met a girl who plays magic. Need some of those girls in my life!!
I see both arguments being valid. Im getting married in a 2 months and this is one of those areas that has been touchy for me. My girl knows how to play, but thinks its dumb. She respects my decision to play this game and she understands why i do play it.
If a girl really likes/loves you, they shouldnt care if you play MTG. Just keep in mind what is most important in the relationship... i.e Her!
Keep it PG-9. Misogyny is uncalled for. And yes, I guess I'm young. 16, junior in high school. but you may understand that I'm not a mindless jock of any sort, and very much so value being in a loving.
Wow.
I did not feel like I was expressing misogyny... regardless, I'll be more careful with what I post in the future. Meant no offense towards anybody!
I think I missed something...
Quote from: Silent1236 on February 06, 2013, 11:52:22 AM
I think I missed something...
You did. DC edited accordingly to make it PG friendly. I just happened to see it before he did.
My girlfriend plays Magic with me. I actually had no intention of teaching her at first, but she kept asking so finally I made a couple basic decks and showed her the ropes. She caught on extremely fast and now she pilots a W/R Boros humans that she actually helped me make with perma-steal and perma-exile via {Cloudshift}. I guess it helps that she's a pretty big closet nerd, she played WoW since the beginning and kinda stopped about a year ago. She's able to beat my ass on the regular which I'm happy with, I can actually playtest with a real opponent! Lol
That's another good reason for magic girls. Consistent play test partners. I scarcely get those since I moved; I used to play with my best bud who lived in my duplex.
I'm a girl and I play magic. My boyfriend is one of the ones who got me into it BUT that was long before we stated dating. We play all the time and attend fnms and tournaments together. It's our "thing". I see nothing wrong with a young guy trying to find a partner with similar interests and I disagree that people should keep their significant others separate from their hobbies.
Quote from: Moneekahh on February 07, 2013, 12:30:59 PM
I'm a girl and I play magic. My boyfriend is one of the ones who got me into it BUT that was long before we stated dating. We play all the time and attend fnms and tournaments together. It's our "thing". I see nothing wrong with a young guy trying to find a partner with similar interests and I disagree that people should keep their significant others separate from their hobbies.
Agreed, there isn't much I don't do with my lady
Mhmm my wife forced me to teach her the game... And forcing me to play with her...:) She is not enough skilled to build decks alone yet but pretty good in beating me...:D
Quote from: Moneekahh on February 07, 2013, 12:30:59 PM
I'm a girl and I play magic. My boyfriend is one of the ones who got me into it BUT that was long before we stated dating. We play all the time and attend fnms and tournaments together. It's our "thing". I see nothing wrong with a young guy trying to find a partner with similar interests and I disagree that people should keep their significant others separate from their hobbies.
Couldn't agree more. They say "opposites attract," but the truth is that similar interests are what build lasting and meaningful relationships. A hobby in common is a bond that brings you closer.
From Moneekkah's post down: yes.
I'll come back to this and give you karma after I post ten more times.
Quote from: KangaRod on February 08, 2013, 04:06:19 AM
Jesus....
Allow me to rephrase...
You are very young. Can I suggest you sow your wild oats before attempting to find true love.
Is that 'politically correct' enough to skirt the Draconians?
Pro tip: Don't actually sow any oats!
Paying wheat-support to "mother earth" is quite a burden! ;D