So I am not sure if I should playagic anymore. My wife is bugging out. So I told her I would stop. But she would have to show me the same respect and if I didn't like stuff she was doing then she would have to stop. She stated she didn't want me to stop but that when I played she would take the boys to watch a movie. So it like if she doesn't like doing magic or get it I can't do it smh. So basically when I go play magic she has a movie night with the boys. I normally don't post this type of stuff on her but I fell like one of the married guys have been through the same thing. So any tips guys. Thanks.
Your kids aren't playing?!?!?! That's so wrong!! When I have kids I'm totally going to teach them and take them to events and everything..
Something similar. In order to get in good playgroup time I have to do it after our kids are asleep. Which means our group not meeting until after around 9pm. My wife never forced me to make a decision, she just asked.
My wife only trips when im spending too much time on it. I also play music and read constantly, so she knew i had hobbies before we got married. I've had to learn how be conscientious of how much time im spending on my activities. The only advice i have is to just explain to her that its something you really like doing and its unfair of her to want you to stop, but to also compromise with her and maybe not spend as much time with it. Hope that helps. Good luck.
I think it's probably best you assess why she doesn't like you playing. It is probably for one of these reasons (note, you may not believe these to be true but she might)
1) You play a lot. Maybe it's too much for her liking, if this is the case she probably feels that a "card game" is taking time away from time the two of you could be spending together
2) you spend a lot on magic. No idea what money's like for you guys, but this can be a big one. Remember: from an outsider's perspective we sink money into pieces of cardboard.
IMHO, talking to her will work best. Figure out what's up- talking through it will almost always produce better results than compromises born of emotion.
Thanks for the help guys. My middle son is the only one who has shown intrest in playing and that is when he is not playing video games. I think I have it worked out for now she told me sorry.
Quote from: Greg54js on November 28, 2012, 07:28:22 PM
Your kids aren't playing?!?!?! That's so wrong!! When I have kids I'm totally going to teach them and take them to events and everything..
i agree with this, although im only 16 i believe this would be a good option
I have a very similar situation with my wife. We have a 4 month old and my wife is at home with him full time while I work full time. I've been trying to get out to play once a week. Luckily my LGS has daily drafts and weekend games. It has been a struggle and I still catch crap for it almost every time I go but I told her it's something that makes me happy and I made sure she knew that she was welcome to make plans to do something whenever she wanted and I would take care of the baby. Our arrangement is a work in progress so I totally understand and sympathize with your predicament here.
The best advice i can offer to all of you is schedule. If you create and abide by a schedule that includes time for work, family, relationship (yes this should be different time than family time), and personal time then she will feel more comfortable having a tangible understanding of the big picture and boundries to hold you and herself to before hap-hazardly complaining due to reasons she doesnt make clear to you since they seem so abundantly clear to her.
Personally i have 6pm friday till 1am saturday every week blocked out away from work, business, and Nicki unless she wants to join me in what i am doing. If i ever get invited to or decide id like to tech outside the normal times i always ask frist and respect her decision.
Quote from: Killin88 on November 28, 2012, 08:41:30 PM
Quote from: Greg54js on November 28, 2012, 07:28:22 PM
Your kids aren't playing?!?!?! That's so wrong!! When I have kids I'm totally going to teach them and take them to events and everything..
i agree with this, although im only 16 i believe this would be a good option
As I stated earlier I have 2 teenagers and an 8 yr old only one teenager has shown a mild intrest. So.
If and when I get married I'm marrying a girl who games. Either magic, yugioh, or d&d. This way our kids will grow up around the good stuff ;)
Quote from: Greg54js on November 28, 2012, 10:21:15 PM
If and when I get married I'm marrying a girl who games. Either magic, yugioh, or d&d. This way our kids will grow up around the good stuff ;)
Keep the cards in the family😜
Quote from: ducttapetitan on November 28, 2012, 11:02:21 PM
Quote from: Greg54js on November 28, 2012, 10:21:15 PM
If and when I get married I'm marrying a girl who games. Either magic, yugioh, or d&d. This way our kids will grow up around the good stuff ;)
Keep the cards in the family😜
Exactly
My fiancé and I both play and intend to teach our son the game when he is old enough to understand.
I did date a guy a few years ago who was big into competitive mtg, he played all the time, ptqs, grand prix's, whathaveyou. For me, he spent too much time on the game and not enough on me and he wasn't willing to compromise so I broke it off. Basically, tell your wife how important it is to you to have your hobby, and try to find a compromise. You shouldn't have to quit entirely. I can see both sides of the dispute and I believ you two can work it out without having to quit magic.
Get her playin
Try to find an activity to do together. Don't force her to play, just try spending some quality time with her and your children of possible. I'm sure she would be alright with you having something you do by yourself, if you did something together