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Title: Kinda of serious 14 year old question
Post by: TheRecklessPlaneswalker on September 06, 2012, 09:51:12 PM
Hi as you all know I am a 14 year freshman. My question is how do you ask a girl to a date ? My case: i have been friends with this girl since I was in 3rd grade . She very sweet and cute but I get the hints she likes me back but how do you ask Simone out without ethier sharing your pants or during from embarrassment?
Title: Re: Kinda of serious 14 year old question
Post by: DirtyMustachio on September 06, 2012, 09:54:19 PM
I would start by writing a heartfelt note wherein you let her know your interested, within you should give her your cell # or home if your not allowed a cell. And ask if it would be okay to talk over the phone sometime. Take it from there, maybe have your parents mutually help y'all work out a time to hang out
Title: Re: Kinda of serious 14 year old question
Post by: TheRecklessPlaneswalker on September 06, 2012, 09:56:09 PM
I feel that my parents would makes scrap book out of the the date
Title: Re: Kinda of serious 14 year old question
Post by: ToSH on September 06, 2012, 09:56:19 PM
Just say "Hey we've been good friends for awhile an I feel maybe we sholud be more than friends." if she says no, it'll never ever happen. If she says yes (probably), there you go! But yeah, if she says "no, I don't think we should", she won't ever say yes.
Title: Re: Kinda of serious 14 year old question
Post by: GoJuDragon on September 06, 2012, 09:57:33 PM
Im 15, and i just go up to them and say hey, do you want to go out sometime? Or hey, will you go out with me? But dont do it in a situation where she'd be presured into saying yes, like around your or her friends. TBH though, id wait till u have ur liscence so ur mom or dad doesnt have to drive you on your dates (unless you live right next to her :P)
Hope this helps, and GOOD LUCK! 👍😉
Title: Re: Kinda of serious 14 year old question
Post by: TheRecklessPlaneswalker on September 06, 2012, 09:59:06 PM
And that's where I die from embarrassment I know if I can wait for catching fire the moive i know easily I can get a date. But it's the long hall between now and next year till the moive .
Title: Re: Kinda of serious 14 year old question
Post by: Willthomjr on September 06, 2012, 10:03:31 PM
Piece of advice: wait till youre older. Get into college, graduate, get a job, experience life single, get married when youre in your late 20's.

Title: Re: Kinda of serious 14 year old question
Post by: TheRecklessPlaneswalker on September 06, 2012, 10:06:24 PM
Plan engaged: get liscinces as soon as possible then take her to the moive " catching fire" which comes out when I get my liscinces, be happy for the rest of
My
Life
Title: Re: Kinda of serious 14 year old question
Post by: Greg54js on September 06, 2012, 10:06:48 PM
Quote from: Mrcena789 on September 06, 2012, 09:56:09 PM
I feel that my parents would makes scrap book out of the the date
Every parent does. Unfortunately you're gonna have to deal with it
Title: Re: Kinda of serious 14 year old question
Post by: Juggalonoke on September 06, 2012, 10:23:32 PM
Quote from: Willthomjr on September 06, 2012, 10:03:31 PM
Piece of advice: wait till youre older. Get into college, graduate, get a job, experience life single, get married when youre in your late 20's.
Best advice im 23 and didnt do this
Title: Re: Kinda of serious 14 year old question
Post by: izik99 on September 06, 2012, 10:27:23 PM
I'm twelve, and I've done it before. I know its a little difference in age than you and yeah, I know it was too early. I called her on Skype and when I felt like it was the right time I asked if she wanted to go out with me. It worked. Also theres a few girls on the forum, maybe they will have advice.
Title: Re: Kinda of serious 14 year old question
Post by: TheRecklessPlaneswalker on September 06, 2012, 10:31:20 PM
Can we keep this forum  on page 1 I want people's opinion
My common ground with her is her and my favorite books the hunger games.
I know for a fact if I asked her to go with me to the second installment maybe she will says yes I can feel it in my heart
Title: Re: Kinda of serious 14 year old question
Post by: Kareason on September 06, 2012, 10:41:36 PM
My grandfather gave the best piece of advice when I was about your age. "The worst thing she can do is say no.". I'm 33 and I will tell my kids the same thing. But I like your idea of the movie. It's common ground and would be an easy first step.
Title: Re: Kinda of serious 14 year old question
Post by: TheRecklessPlaneswalker on September 06, 2012, 10:44:02 PM
I like the idea also the moive just isn't coming out till next year and your advice is right but it's all the stuff that follows she is no longer your friend, people make fun of you, i am afraid if she says no but I am more afraid of what comes after of she says no
Title: Re: Kinda of serious 14 year old question
Post by: BlackJester on September 06, 2012, 11:03:32 PM
Quote from: Kareason on September 06, 2012, 10:41:36 PM
My grandfather gave the best piece of advice when I was about your age. "The worst thing she can do is say no.". I'm 33 and I will tell my kids the same thing. But I like your idea of the movie. It's common ground and would be an easy first step.
Well, the worst thing she can do is stab you in the neck with a #2 pencil. But I think it's very unlikely. Most girls use pens.

Basically, I'd say follow your 💜 an trust yourself to be strong enough to handle the consequences either way. Don't be afraid to let a girl know how you feel, but dont be afraid to be single either.

Just don't take yourself too seriously. You've got plenty of girls to meet in your lifetime. Rack up some experience points. 😉
Title: Re: Kinda of serious 14 year old question
Post by: DirtyMustachio on September 06, 2012, 11:15:23 PM
Quote from: izik99 on September 06, 2012, 10:27:23 PM
I'm twelve, and I've done it before. I know its a little difference in age than you and yeah, I know it was too early. I called her on Skype and when I felt like it was the right time I asked if she wanted to go out with me. It worked. Also theres a few girls on the forum, maybe they will have advice.

Jerez, technology these days... Kids are getting this down easier.

Back in my day....

I would ride my bike to her house, bring her flowers, make out, go home
Title: Re: Kinda of serious 14 year old question
Post by: DirtyMustachio on September 06, 2012, 11:16:42 PM
Also you don't need them all to say yes. Just one. So take that for what you will.
Title: Re: Kinda of serious 14 year old question
Post by: BlackJester on September 06, 2012, 11:17:14 PM
Those were the days. 😌

The only advice you got was.... right, never got advice.
Title: Re: Kinda of serious 14 year old question
Post by: DirtyMustachio on September 06, 2012, 11:21:31 PM
Quote from: BlackJester on September 06, 2012, 11:17:14 PM
Those were the days. 😌

The only advice you got was.... right, never got advice.

Sure it was, don't embarrass your mother, and dont get her pregnant
Title: Re: Kinda of serious 14 year old question
Post by: Brandalog on September 07, 2012, 12:00:34 PM
Here's what you do.

You write a note saying
"hey, I really like you
And this is crazy,
But Here's a time,
Date me maybe?"

That should get her ;)
Title: Re: Kinda of serious 14 year old question
Post by: Fenster on September 07, 2012, 12:19:09 PM
Be yourself but confident. You're the boss of you but all bosses needs a lovely secretary! But remember! Treat your employees bad and they'll quit! If you let them walk all over you your workplace will soon fall apart into ruins! ;D

This is serious advice though!
Be yourself but confident!
Title: Re: Kinda of serious 14 year old question
Post by: BlackJester on September 07, 2012, 12:20:16 PM
You'll never regret trying and failing.

You'll forever regret never trying and not knowing.

So said the Jester.
Title: Re: Kinda of serious 14 year old question
Post by: Sevenfold on September 07, 2012, 12:25:22 PM
I always found it easier when your good freinds with a girl to just talk to them and see how they see your freindship. But when i was your age i was more worried about losing my v-card then actually dating. But the girls i actually dated where my close friends that i had, had years before we dated. If you dnt ask her how she feels and ahe starts dating some one else youll regret it.
Title: Re: Kinda of serious 14 year old question
Post by: RevanJJ on September 07, 2012, 03:51:35 PM
The best tip I was ever given was this...if you think she likes you and you like her, it is best to just come out and say it. Either write her a letter(using a pen, not CPU, girls like hand written stuff for some reason) or just tell her straight up. Make sure to keep eye contact when you say you like her and was wondering if she'd like to date.

The most important thing is not to fear rejection and also let her know it's cool to remain friends should she says no. Less pressure gets better results.

Plus, if it doesn't go as expected, remember this young Jedi...you are 14 and there will be many more girls down the road as you grow older so no need to rush and no need to to be overly anxious about it.

Be yourself bro. If she's known you that long, she likes who you are already.

That's just my two cents but most of that is what my Dad told me and it worked in a similar situation when I was 16.
Title: Re: Kinda of serious 14 year old question
Post by: RevanJJ on September 07, 2012, 03:58:16 PM
Oh yeah, for later on when you are in your 20's, don't date a stripper. I learned that the hard way. It was a serious D'oh!!
Title: Re: Kinda of serious 14 year old question
Post by: Fenster on September 07, 2012, 04:10:20 PM
Quote from: RevanJJ on September 07, 2012, 03:58:16 PM
Oh yeah, for later on when you are in your 20's, don't date a stripper. I learned that the hard way. It was a serious D'oh!!
Dude...
Title: Re: Kinda of serious 14 year old question
Post by: Quackmaster5 on September 07, 2012, 04:16:20 PM
Nvr kissed a girl til senior year of high school. Only had three girlfriends in my life. You gotta let things happen the way they will. It's tough to deal with but you will be happier in the end. I agree to take charge and try but if it doesn't happen, there are more fish in the sea. And I hate to break it to you but most serious relationships start in college.
Title: Re: Kinda of serious 14 year old question
Post by: DirtyMustachio on September 07, 2012, 04:31:51 PM
Quote from: Fenster on September 07, 2012, 04:10:20 PM
Quote from: RevanJJ on September 07, 2012, 03:58:16 PM
Oh yeah, for later on when you are in your 20's, don't date a stripper. I learned that the hard way. It was a serious D'oh!!
Dude...

I lol'd
Title: Re: Kinda of serious 14 year old question
Post by: RevanJJ on September 07, 2012, 05:27:04 PM
Quote from: Fenster on September 07, 2012, 04:10:20 PM
Quote from: RevanJJ on September 07, 2012, 03:58:16 PM
Oh yeah, for later on when you are in your 20's, don't date a stripper. I learned that the hard way. It was a serious D'oh!!
Dude...

I was being quite serious. It's a bad move. Wish someone told me when I was young. Lol
Title: Re: Kinda of serious 14 year old question
Post by: BlackJester on September 07, 2012, 06:49:06 PM
Quote from: RevanJJ on September 07, 2012, 05:27:04 PM
Quote from: Fenster on September 07, 2012, 04:10:20 PM
Quote from: RevanJJ on September 07, 2012, 03:58:16 PM
Oh yeah, for later on when you are in your 20's, don't date a stripper. I learned that the hard way. It was a serious D'oh!!
Dude...

I was being quite serious. It's a bad move. Wish someone told me when I was young. Lol
One would think they wouldn't have to tell you. ;)
Title: Re: Kinda of serious 14 year old question
Post by: smokin terry on September 07, 2012, 06:50:27 PM
You should talk to her. If you don't you really will regret it. Trust me.
Title: Re: Kinda of serious 14 year old question
Post by: TheRecklessPlaneswalker on September 07, 2012, 06:58:17 PM
I opened conversation on Facebook when' stuck in the car with little kids for 2 1/2 hrs :/ hopefully she responds
Title: Re: Kinda of serious 14 year old question
Post by: RevanJJ on September 07, 2012, 06:59:45 PM
Quote from: Mrcena789 on September 07, 2012, 06:58:17 PM
I opened conversation on Facebook when' stuck in the car with little kids for 2 1/2 hrs :/ hopefully she responds
Best of luck young Jedi
Title: Re: Kinda of serious 14 year old question
Post by: TheRecklessPlaneswalker on September 07, 2012, 07:01:08 PM
Quote from: RevanJJ on September 07, 2012, 06:59:45 PM
Quote from: Mrcena789 on September 07, 2012, 06:58:17 PM
I opened conversation on Facebook when' stuck in the car with little kids for 2 1/2 hrs :/ hopefully she responds

Best of luck young Jedi
Thxs hopefully the luck is with me
Title: Re: Kinda of serious 14 year old question
Post by: RevanJJ on September 07, 2012, 07:06:33 PM
Quote from: BlackJester on September 07, 2012, 06:49:06 PM
Quote from: RevanJJ on September 07, 2012, 05:27:04 PM
Quote from: Fenster on September 07, 2012, 04:10:20 PM
Quote from: RevanJJ on September 07, 2012, 03:58:16 PM
Oh yeah, for later on when you are in your 20's, don't date a stripper. I learned that the hard way. It was a serious D'oh!!
Dude...

I was being quite serious. It's a bad move. Wish someone told me when I was young. Lol
One would think they wouldn't have to tell you. ;)

She was hot, lol. Sometime brain and other brain switch places and bad decisions get made. :p
Title: Re: Kinda of serious 14 year old question
Post by: Imdowd80 on September 08, 2012, 03:43:40 AM
im gonna troll a little bit here....put the way your topic is written, i really was expecting to see a question that has been bugging you for fourteen years.  not a question from a fourteen year old.


okay troll time over.  your only 14 so no need to rush it, but if you feel that strongly about it. Then I say ask her out, if she really is your friend, then she if she says no, the friendship wont be lost.
Title: Re: Kinda of serious 14 year old question
Post by: BlackJester on September 08, 2012, 11:07:25 AM
Same here. I thought the OP was going to ask about {Oath of Druids} or something. ;D
Title: Re: Kinda of serious 14 year old question
Post by: DirtyMustachio on September 08, 2012, 11:24:37 AM
Look you'll be fine, just grape her in the mouth and there won't be any issues.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ow7pwIDhl5c&feature=youtube_gdata_player
Title: Re: Kinda of serious 14 year old question
Post by: Coffee Vampire on September 08, 2012, 11:25:28 AM
lmao
Title: Re: Kinda of serious 14 year old question
Post by: Rass on September 08, 2012, 01:51:05 PM
Quote from: RevanJJ on September 07, 2012, 07:06:33 PM
Quote from: BlackJester on September 07, 2012, 06:49:06 PM
Quote from: RevanJJ on September 07, 2012, 05:27:04 PM
Quote from: Fenster on September 07, 2012, 04:10:20 PM
Quote from: RevanJJ on September 07, 2012, 03:58:16 PM
Oh yeah, for later on when you are in your 20's, don't date a stripper. I learned that the hard way. It was a serious D'oh!!
Dude...

I was being quite serious. It's a bad move. Wish someone told me when I was young. Lol
One would think they wouldn't have to tell you. ;)

She was hot, lol. Sometime brain and other brain switch places and bad decisions get made. :p

Sorry temporary hijack.

Dating a stripper can be fun. I just didn't put any expectation on the relationship going anywhere. Had fun for a few months she knew I wasn't gonna get serious with her so she left.

As far as asking your friend out glad to see you did it and hope all goes as planned. I wish I would have take a few more shot at the girls I was just content having the ones who picked me up.