Something fragile

Quote from: Sparkle Ninja on March 17, 2014, 12:18:10 AM

Look. I'll say it. I hate my body. I wish I were someone else. I just want to be who I am. And who I am is someone I can never be. You all know me for someone. Someone who can help you and I can. But that doesn't make me content with who I as a person am. I, like many other ladies, just want to be told I'm  pretty because I never get told that at home or anywhere else. I, just like many other people, like talking with people. And I, like all people, have my own insecurities. I think I'm ugly. I forget people love me. I think to myself what am I doing here, one of billions, uselessly drifting through space. I am a fragile person and like to be handled gently. I love all of you here and that is why I'm telling you all this. It's just something I finally told my soon to be husband a couple weeks ago and I thought more people should know. So thank you for listening. That is all. Thank you.

Kinda sounds like some thoughts that have floated their way through my head. We all have negative thoughts toward ourselves at times and I know how it is to be unsatisfied with my physical experience, but you have to understand that how you look is uniquely your own. That is what makes you pretty. That is you in your gravatar, correct Sparkle? If so, I personally find you stunningly gorgeous. Having said that, don't have to be told you're pretty, simply know you are. Another thing, being who you truly are as completely as possible is key to happiness and acceptance. Don't hold yourself back, what makes you happy is what is most important.

If you ever need to talk Sparkle... or anybody else on iMtG for that matter, just send me a PM or Email. My inbox is always open to talk. Expressing our feelings and thoughts to others is extremely helpful.

Thank you. I had a really hard week last week and I just felt really bad. Thank you. So much. And yes that is me. Pax East 2011

Quote from: Muggywuggy on March 17, 2014, 02:21:19 PM

Thought u mentioned you have a BF?

Reading the original post: it seems like something is lacking in your relationship

Especially if you don't feel pretty

I don't see him very much during the week.

There's possibly a large element of the issue right here: you don't spend enough quality time with your partner maybe?

You mentioned you both play magic; let's take a moment to realize (I'm talking at you men) although we (males) may feel hanging out and geekin on magic with our lady feels like quality to us, but is in fact not quality time. Quality time is sitting on the couch talking to one another, no TV on or any other main subject other than your partner.

That being said: we men are not psychic and require being asked of for what is needed of us.

So maybe express your feelings to your partner, people in relationships need attention. It helps in areas of personal confidence, sexual confidence and confirming mutual attraction with a partner is constantly needed to establish a nice long healthy relationship.

My gf has expressed similar things to me before about feeling off before and when she explained what she wanted, it was simply a matter of her telling me what she wants and desires.

And I'm hitting a nice milestone this year of age, and time only makes you more aware (and hopefully wiser) of what works with other partners, don't fret so much as young folk, plenty of time for you to figure out who you are in life and what you need

That being said: we men are not psychic and require being asked of for what is needed of us.

I can't stress enough how important it is.

Quote from: Sparkle Ninja on March 17, 2014, 03:45:47 PM

Quote from: Muggywuggy on March 17, 2014, 02:21:19 PM

Thought u mentioned you have a BF?

Reading the original post: it seems like something is lacking in your relationship

Especially if you don't feel pretty

I don't see him very much during the week.

There's possibly a large element of the issue right here: you don't spend enough quality time with your partner maybe?

You mentioned you both play magic; let's take a moment to realize (I'm talking at you men) although we (males) may feel hanging out and geekin on magic with our lady feels like quality to us, but is in fact not quality time. Quality time is sitting on the couch talking to one another, no TV on or any other main subject other than your partner.

That being said: we men are not psychic and require being asked of for what is needed of us.

So maybe express your feelings to your partner, people in relationships need attention. It helps in areas of personal confidence, sexual confidence and confirming mutual attraction with a partner is constantly needed to establish a nice long healthy relationship.

My gf has expressed similar things to me before about feeling off before and when she explained what she wanted, it was simply a matter of her telling me what she wants and desires.

And I'm hitting a nice milestone this year of age, and time only makes you more aware (and hopefully wiser) of what works with other partners, don't fret so much as young folk, plenty of time for you to figure out who you are in life and what you need

Usually we do spend a lot of time together but lately he's just been rather busy. I also see what you're saying. Thank you

You just have to remember that no matter how insignificant you feel at times, you have someone who loves you more than anyone in the world. Your soon to be husband wants to spend his life with you. I have a girlfriend, when i feel small i think how important i am to her, based on how important she is to me. I think 'if i were to leave and never come back, someone would care and their heart would break' and thats a feeling that just cant be paralleled. Im getting all emotional now just thinking about it, it reallycan help you through the darkest days.

You just have to remember that no matter how insignificant you feel at times, you have someone who loves you more than anyone in the world. Your soon to be husband wants to spend his life with you. I have a girlfriend, when i feel small i think how important i am to her, based on how important she is to me. I think 'if i were to leave and never come back, someone would care and their heart would break' and thats a feeling that just cant be paralleled. Im getting all emotional now just thinking about it, it reallycan help you through the darkest days.

Thank you. Thats what he told me yesterday. but thank you

Quote from: MisterJH on March 22, 2014, 10:39:30 PM

You just have to remember that no matter how insignificant you feel at times, you have someone who loves you more than anyone in the world. Your soon to be husband wants to spend his life with you. I have a girlfriend, when i feel small i think how important i am to her, based on how important she is to me. I think 'if i were to leave and never come back, someone would care and their heart would break' and thats a feeling that just cant be paralleled. Im getting all emotional now just thinking about it, it reallycan help you through the darkest days.

Thank you. Thats what he told me yesterday. but thank you

.poo. maybe im him then, or hes me. Or somethin like that. Ive been watching too much Fringe

I love that show